Where Hating Your In-laws is Fun! http://www.ihatemyinlaws.com/ 2008-05-15T07:11:11-05:00 FeedCreator 1.7.2 2008-05-15T02:20:11-05:00 2008-05-15T02:20:11-05:00 2008-05-15T02:20:11-05:00 http://www.ihatemyinlaws.com/story.php?id=7001 I Hate My Inlaws

Let's see.... BIL #1 is divorced from a total psycho. DW#1 would physically abuse BIL #1, she verbally abused him, she neglected the children to the point where she wouldn't even feed them. Then BIL #1 went and married DW#1's "friend" when the ink on the divorce papers was barely dry. And that marriage is 2 seconds away from ending. SIL is a total control freak. MIL can't make any decisions without SIL's approval. SIL has made enemies of her brothers by badmouthing their wives/girlfriends to their faces. So now the brothers see what a hateful bitch their sister is. SIL was married to hubby#1 (but only because he was moving away and she didn't want to be alone). They weren't married for 2 years when she started an affair with a married man. This married man had a pregnant wife and a 2 year old child. SIL got pregnant by this man. And this man divorced his pregnant wife and married SIL Yeah, smart move. (sarcasim) So, SIL's hubby#2 started cheating on her a few years ago. Yep, you reap what you sow. Poetic justice would be SIL getting pregnant and hubby#2 getting his girlfriend pregnant at the same time. BIL #2 can't seem to find a woman that will stay with him, much less marry him. His first fiance left him the week before the wedding was to take place. And BIL's latest girlfriend got pregnant (might be his kid, might not be his...who knows). But that relationship didn't last, either. Seems BIL#2 just can't find a woman to love him. But when you hook up with skanks, what can you expect? DH and I have been married for almost 19 years. We are mostly happy together. (no one's ALWAYS happy in their marriage, you know) We have more ups than downs. Sure we have our arguments, but they last for maybe a day. And we only have arguments perhaps twice a year. For the most part, we are happy. And our children are reasonably happy. But for some reason, the IL's seem to think that DH is the blacksheep of the family. Hmmmm....maybe if DH was as miserable as they were, then they'd actually accept him as one of them. Nope, I think we'll just continue being happy. And maybe rub their faces in the fact that they're miserable people who will never change.

2008-05-15T01:49:42-05:00 2008-05-15T01:49:42-05:00 2008-05-15T01:49:42-05:00 http://www.ihatemyinlaws.com/story.php?id=7000 I Hate My Inlaws

That's really the only word I can come up to describe what I've gone through since becoming engaged to my now husband of two and a half years. My BIL is also married and had been for about three years when we announced the big news. Up to that point, I had NO idea what I was in store for. I had always avoided spending holidays with him and his family because I wanted to spend the time with my family and I also knew that the other BIL was into the whole "FAMILY ONLY" thing, which I didn't really care about at that time. Come to find out, SIL had been running the whole show, and they all (no MIL as she died years ago) sat around every Thanksgiving and Christmas waiting for BIL and wife to show up from her family's celebration. She insisted that they all wait on them and only when they arrived late in the afternoon for about an hour could they finally have an actual family holiday. This would usually consist of them coming in and bragging about what all gifts they gave her family, giving FIL, BIL and my husband a few cheap gifts and then taking off back to her family's celebration. There were numerous times that they would have a short Thanksgiving lunch the following Saturday because it would be the only time SIL could spare for them. Well, when we got engaged, she must have realized that she would now have to also consider our schedules, and that just didn't fly with her. She threw a huge fit, saying that we were no longer welcome around her or her family, that my husband shouldn't marry me because I was not a "good Christian woman" and that we were both basically the worst people in the entire world. Yeah, all because we decided to get married. How that was any of her business to comment on...I am still at a loss... So then all of a sudden she was Super DIL, trying to show up for everything and being really accommodating... The last Christmas before we were married she actually cleaned FIL's house and cooked a few things...I was not welcome, of course...I was too busy worshipping Satan with my heathen family... Since we've been married awhile now and I've blown her completely out of the water in most aspects (cooking, entertaining, hosting) because she is a redneck and I am not, she has once again disappeared with BIL in tow to her family's house for essentially every family gathering. They do not join the family for Thanksgiving at all, they completely skipped Christmas except for when they showed up Christmas afternoon to open gifts in front of everyone and they run off once again as soon as they are done and on Easter they showed up for five minutes after the dinner was over to sit on their fannies and yet again talk about how wonderful it was at her family's house. P.S. Her family is also a bunch of fat rednecks, the kind of people you see frequenting the buffet line at some gross restaurant and live in a shack in the bad part of town. They are not a Norman Rockwell painting by any means. I'm glad that she went away. Hopefully it stays this way, although I'm pretty sure that once she has a baby she will want to come around and try to boss everyone around again and gobble up as much attention as she can. Then when we have a child they'll disappear again, as our children won't be worth their time and effort and may actually receive a little attention too!

2008-05-14T20:21:53-05:00 2008-05-14T20:21:53-05:00 2008-05-14T20:21:53-05:00 http://www.ihatemyinlaws.com/story.php?id=6999 I Hate My Inlaws

My family all gets along with each other for the most part and we have no problem with people's differences and quirks. We just sort of smile and laugh and get on with life. No big deal. But DH's family is different. I never experienced being disliked and criticized for no reason before. SIL decided that I was a threat to her for some reason and competes with me on all levels. Clothes, income, weight etc. SIL was quite overt about it from the very beginning. She set up some kind of game with goals that only she knows about, then makes fun of me when we are all together. I have never known such pointless yet mean competition. I never experienced being disliked like this for no reason, even in high school. I have never had to deal with the frustration of being mocked by someone and forced to be nice to them, since DH thinks the world of his sister. His entire family thinks she is perfect and funny. I think she's misguided and frankly quite ignorant. I have never felt so hated before, and have never defensively disliked anyone in return. And I can add MIL to it since she's the one that compares me to SIL constantly.

2008-05-14T19:08:04-05:00 2008-05-14T19:08:04-05:00 2008-05-14T19:08:04-05:00 http://www.ihatemyinlaws.com/story.php?id=6998 I Hate My Inlaws

Plain and simple DW, the reason you and I are getting divorced is because I CAN NOT stand your father. What a slimebag he is. I recently found out our only son refuses to have contact with you. The reason, you remind him too much of his grandfather. DW you have become your dad. Keep telling yourself your abusive father is more important than your own children. Misery loves company and as long as "Yes Dad" is still alive, you will have plenty of it.

2008-05-14T14:12:37-05:00 2008-05-14T14:12:37-05:00 2008-05-14T14:12:37-05:00 http://www.ihatemyinlaws.com/story.php?id=6997 I Hate My Inlaws

It has been bitter from the beginning, but I have always tried to work it out, and more importantly, I have always encouraged your son to have a relationship with you no matter how bad our relationship was. From the very beginning, you tried to control our relationship and our marriage. You chose to have only one child and place all your dreams on him, as if he could not think and choose for himself. You made the choice to collect wedding invitations and wedding programs over the years so you could use them as 'samples" for you son's wedding, not even considering that the wedding belongs to the bride - especially when she is paying! You had the audacity to say, "We only get one weddng and we wanted it to be big and invite everyone we know" (probably more than 400 people!). The reality is, you did get only one wedding - it was your wedding, when you were already pregnant and had to get married in your mother's living room. Sorry you thought your son was on this earth to redeem your mistakes and regrets. The hardest part of hating you is that I have your only grandchildren While I don't want to make them a part of this, every time they come to your house, they learn your bad eating habits (what do you weigh now - about 250 pounds at 5'2"?), they have no schedules and they get whatever they want, in spite of my requests to the contrary. When they come after time spent with you, there is always a terrible "re-adjustment"period to my rules that are designed out of love for my children. Don't you see how your ignorance and passive-agressive behavior ultimately impacts them? After this last "issue", I have made a commitment to "divorce" you. As a Christian, our pastor recently spoke about forgiveness. The most important thing she said is that we have to forgive to release ourselves from the stress, but she also said we are not called to be in a "covenant relationship" with everyone. How totally refreshing to find that I don't have to be in relationship with you any longer. I realize that I have to forgive you so you don't have any power in my life. However, I don't ever have to subject myself to you again. The saddest thing is that in time, your own grandchidren will see you for what you are and turn away from you. Thank goodness you have a wonderful "social" life because you are going to need those people to take care of you when you are old and can't get your fat-a** around any more!

2008-05-14T05:14:27-05:00 2008-05-14T05:14:27-05:00 2008-05-14T05:14:27-05:00 http://www.ihatemyinlaws.com/story.php?id=6996 I Hate My Inlaws

Well....I am from India and got married toa guy who belongs to a traditional family. Ours was a love marriage without dowry and that didn't go well with my in-laws of course. The big cash prize and all the luxuries they wanted went up the air when I refused to give them anything because they demanded it. My SIL had the nerve to say that of course, my mother should give 3 TVs, fridge, AC, beds, sofa sets, almirahs and dining table sets etc - one for us, one for my parents in-law and one for my younger BIL, who is not married...what the "****"? Since then, we have spent lakhs of ruppes on them and still I am the black sheep in the family.....

2008-05-14T05:10:09-05:00 2008-05-14T05:10:09-05:00 2008-05-14T05:10:09-05:00 http://www.ihatemyinlaws.com/story.php?id=6995 I Hate My Inlaws

I was told as a child not to use the word "hate", but in this case I just can't help myself. I hate my SIL. I truly HATE her. She has been nothing but a self-centered piece of *blank* since she married into the family. She is competitive and jealous of me. She wants attention on herself and cannot stand it when someone else gets more attention than her. She wears only brand name clothing while she gives other people gifts from lesser stores, thinking she is being nice. She ignores our kids and brags about hers as if they are beyond this world in talent and athleticism (they are NOT by the way). She works at a church yet she ignored our kids on their Christening day. Can we say, "hypocrite"? When her DH was sick, SIL was too busy visting with her friends to get him his Rx from the store. DH's ex wife (1st wife now divorced) had to get them for him, and she isn't even his wife anymore! How sad is that? SIL talks about family and how special they are and how wonderful family is - HER family. She has no competition in her family and she gets all the attention, so she likes them more. SIL refuses to acknowledge our kids or buy them presents BUT she will gladly take gifts from us for her own kids (which ain't gonna happen anymore). SIL walks into other people's houses and snoops around and helps herself to opening doors and spying on things she has no business looking at. SIL is not liked by anyone in the family. SIL is talked about by everyone else in a negative way, yet she has no clue. SIL can go to hell as far as I'm concerned. She has a floor mat that says she is "spoiled". I'd like to take that mat and stick it on her body where the sun don't shine. Having to see her for even a nanosecond makes me want to hurl. She is the one bad apple that ruins the whole bunch of good apples. I wish she would go away for all eternity. Look at the kind of hate she puts into me with her sickening behavior. She is the anti-Christ as far as I'm concerned.

2008-05-14T03:07:04-05:00 2008-05-14T03:07:04-05:00 2008-05-14T03:07:04-05:00 http://www.ihatemyinlaws.com/story.php?id=6994 I Hate My Inlaws

Due to recent events, I am sure that we will be receiving a call shortly letting us know that there will no longer be room for me at an event for an in-law, one who in particular has been rather rotten to me. I'm sure that they will tell us that only my husband is able to go now and that I can just sit at home while they all go out as a FAMILY...sans me. Have fun, y'all! My husband will be lucky if there aren't divorce papers coming his way soon.

2008-05-13T22:46:11-05:00 2008-05-13T22:46:11-05:00 2008-05-13T22:46:11-05:00 http://www.ihatemyinlaws.com/story.php?id=6993 I Hate My Inlaws

Thank-you FIL for calling my husband on his work cell instead of trying him at home. I hate you, and that is why I never answer the phone when you call. Thanks for never speaking at our wedding either. That was a slap in the face. I can't wait til you croak. Please stay away from us as much as you can. No wonder your wife divorced you. You have as much contact with your sons as a rusted nail. Go away.

2008-05-13T21:33:21-05:00 2008-05-13T21:33:21-05:00 2008-05-13T21:33:21-05:00 http://www.ihatemyinlaws.com/story.php?id=6992 I Hate My Inlaws

Oh my God, Where do I start? 18 years of snide comments, manipulations, fake tears and always getting her own way, no matter who she hurts. She is on her third marriage, she seems to have killed her previous husbands with her constant nagging and whining. That was the only way they could get away from her. She is very snobby and thinks that she is better than everyone else. She hasn't liked me since the day we met. My husband is an only child and she knows exactly what to do to stay first in his life, and of course, she never does ANYTHING wrong in his eyes. She can do or say anything she wants, no matter how hurtful it may be and I just have to keep quiet and bite my tongue. I'm not allowed to say anything. My husband would rather hurt my feelings than hers. She is constantly in our business and expects visits 5-6 times a year with gifts also on special occasions, and has no regard to the expense involved. She lives about 200 miles away and with gasoline prices, it has become a HUGE financial burden on us, not to mention the fact that my husband commutes 30 miles on way to work and we need to save all the gas that we can, but she could care less, as long as she gets her way. We always have to fit the bill. My Husband left me alone on Mother's Day so he could spend the whole entire day with her. Even though I don't have any human children, I'm still a wife and have 4 leggged children who depend on me to care for them and I don't even get recognized. Nice HUH? I always feel like she is talking behind my back and whenever we do get together with them, the 3 of them(MIL, stepFIL and my husband) just sit and have a conversation amongst themselves like I'm not even in the room. I have hated this women since my wedding day, which she tried to make all about her and tried to take over. It wouldn't be so bad if my husband would recognize these things and agree with me, but he just doesn't see any of it and REFUSES to talk to her about it. Thanks my witchy MIL for making most of my married life miserable and ruinign my marriage, but thats what she has wanted all along, her "baby boy" all to herself.....