I know I haven't been around lately, I'm sorry about that. Thank you to those who have reached out to me and have been my support. I don't know what I would do without you guys. I have been trying to deal with all of these personal issues and today SIL brought some new drama and has finally succeeded in turning her DD against us. I'm going to try to write this all the best I can. I'm still shaken up, sad and angry so please bear with me.
As many of you know from my past posts, NIL has been contacting us to attend family gatherings and her upcoming bday bash in September. We have told her mom, SIL to contact us herself because we didn't want to keep having to disappoint NIL, having to tell her no and explaining why. It puts us in an awkward position and it only looks like a guilt trip. SIL agreed and said she would contact us herself. Well guess what happens? She has been planning this bday bash since last fall (that we know of because that's when NIL informed us of it) yet we were never informed by SIL personally. Months later, DH hears about it from MIL and SFIL but SIL never called DH. She said she was "busy" and meant to get around to telling us for the last 10 months
DH ends up on the phone struggling to explain why we prefer SIL to contact us and she kept taking him circles, being a bitch and saying we're making a mountain out of a molehill. Well, that's when I lost it. I yelled and called her a "fucking bitch", she heard and I repeated myself. She claims NIL heard it (I call bs, I think she told her) and began to cry. After this it went to text messaging and things got uglier. I told SIL everything that I had sitting in my chest for years. As usual, she tries to gaslight me, tells me it's all my fault and how she's been nothing but nice to me. More lies since I ESIL told me SIL had talked shit about me. I know she bashes me in front of NIL because NIL once told me some negative things about another fam member and his wife.
I told SIL that she and her family are never at fault and how it's funny that other in laws in the family agree with me and say the very same about them and their behavior. All she kept saying was that I was fighting with myself and that I cause drama in my own little head. Soooo many things were brought up and so many ugly things were said. I'm not sure if it was NIL or SIL but one of the two were texting me on NIL's phone, saying that her mom loves me and that nothing was her fault and how I need to stop fighting with the family. I basically told her this was an issue between adults and she should not have been involved in and I wasn't carrying on this kind of conversation with a 15 year old. In the middle of all this, SIl says we're always welcome back into the family and she loves us. Okay, what??? You turn your kid against me, argue with me then say you love us and we're always welcome in your life? Da fuck??? As I'm sure she would be oh so friendly with me next time we saw each other. I told her to call me to talk things out and she ignores it. It ended with DH telling her to block our numbers and stop texting us.
I have done so many things for her DD and this is what I get for it. I'm the only one in that entire fucking family who talks to her kid and takes her out. The kid is visibly miserable, depressed and in therapy for the issues her family causes her. Now I'm the bad guy? FUCK YOU SIL! She's so luck she isn't in front of me because I swear, I think I would have attacked her. I'm such a loose cannon now. I can't take anymore. I told DH that this was enough. I can't take these people bringing problems to my home anymore. The lies, the manipulation, the mind games, the anger, sadness, all of it. I am fuckin' done.