willthetruthbetold wrote:So what do you all think:
My MIL and FIL like to kiss all family members on the lips They insist that anything else is not a REAL kiss.
I think it's disgusting and refuse to participate. MIL will still zoom in on me like a heat seeking missile and I turn my face away at the last minute and she plants her nasty wet slobber on my cheek. FIL is more forceful and has actually tried to grab my face to put his lips on mine! I jump away and he always makes a big deal about it. This happens every single time that we see them, and it's been decades!
DH thinks I'm being rude because he was raised with the idea that family shows their affection for each other that way and distinguishes them from non-family. It's as though it's an HONOR to let the ILs force their slobber on me.
Let me add a couple of other factors: MIL has large wet lips. She grinds her lipstick all across the other person's mouth, leaving ugly red blotches. FIL has chronic bad breath from his rotting teeth and adds some crushing bear hugs to the kisses and it prolongs the (disgusting) interaction. I seriously want to throw up afterwards, even with cheek kisses. Another thing: MIL insists that DH KISS HIS SISTER ON THE LIPS ALSO!
My FOO was content with a nice moderate hug and a dry cheek kiss.
I used to say I was catching/getting over a cold to avoid the contact until the ILs caught on. Then I tried stepping back and then going out of the room, but both of them would hunt me down for the sole purpose of kissing me.
Please let me know what you all think. Sometimes DH makes me feel like I'm some kind of Puritan. I've told him I'll never kiss either of the ILs on the mouth again, but I get crap from all of them at every visit.
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