I Have So Much In Common With You Guys, I Don't Even Need To Change All The Words!
Lack of awareness of another person's time frames, deadlines
This is MIL & GSIL to a tee. Late to everything DH & I plan, and rush everything along when they show up. But call, text, and email us continuously to make sure we're on time for their functions.
Inability to admit wrong-doing--someone else is always to blame
MIL has always blamed me for the hatred we have for each other. She was a snob to me the first day I met her, I tried for over a year to get to know and befriend her, but she always excluded me and made me feel like I wasn't good enough. So I began treating her the same way and we've been at this for over 10 years.
Severe bouts of anger
When I was pregnant MIL was so depressed because she always wanted GSIL to have the first grandbaby. She made the rudest comments to DH & I throughout my whole pregnancy, and when I was 9 months preggo she made the comment that my DD's name was ugly and I should change it before the birth. That completely set me of! She made the comment over the speaker phone while talking to DH, and when they got off the phone I was a hormonal,emotional wreck(just thinking about that comment and all of the other things she had been doing). DH called his DM back to ask her what her problem was, and she started screaming and crying. I heard her telling DH that I'm the one with the problem and I need to tell her to her face and she hung up. About an hour later my 80 year old grandma (who barely knows MIL) called to tell me that MIL came to her house,crying hysterically and asking why DH & I didn't love her.- What A Fruitcake!
Pride of Children
MIL is obsessed with GSIL (and GSIL's DD). They both walk on water in MIL's eyes.
Above average interest of social class and importance
They don't seem to care about this...but they are incredibly obsessed with money and lots of it (especially for SIL and her brood). Money means everything to them.
All of them could care less about other people's needs or feelings, just thier own.
Manipulative and Competitive.
MIL and GSIL are the queens of this.
Feels the need to control a situation they have the least bit of knowldege of.
Loves Photographs - Wierd that this is a trait, but that's what I found while researching
MIL loves taking photos of GSIL's DD. Also carries a photo album full of pics of GSIL's DD and displays them in her house, and all over Facebook and emails. But none of my DD.
Sets unrealistic goals
Scheme to find ways to acquire more money.
Always talk about how their going to retire, buy an RV, and travel the world. (I hope they do)!
Expectations that others will automatically go along with what they want
GSIL & MIL to a tee.
Hypersensitivity to criticism/defeat, reacting with rage
GSIL & MIL to a tee.
Makes you feel like a deeply flawed person
GSIL and MIL to a tee.
Puts on a facade--often perceived as a caring and understanding person
MIL,GSIL & FIL do this quite well. GSIL tries to put on a facade but she's not that bright, so the mask easily slips.
Low stress tolerance
GSIL is a spazz...
MIL,FIL, BIL 1,BIL 2 and GSIL could write a how-to-manual on this one.
Moody- switches from nice to mean in a second
Fails to honor financial obligations
All of my IL's pay their financial obligations for fear that someone will find out their behind on bills.
Seldom expresses appreciation
None of them have ever shown any appreciation towards DH,DD & I.
It's always been about Fabulous GSIL and her FOO
BIL 1- The felon,wife beater who can't get a job so the PIL's pay his $700 a month motrgage.
BIL 2- Who just got busted selling meth and is getting ready to be shipped to the army because PIL's got him out of jail. They brag about him going to the army like he's already won a war. Pretty sad a meth head like him protecting our country.
Little SIL- Who is 14,hates the world,pretends to be gay (because everyone else is doing it). The only time this girl is allowed out of the house is to stay weekends with GSIL to play mommy to GSIL's DD.