I Hate My Inlaws!

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In-laws, and the quarrels they start, have been the subject of stories for many years. This is your opportunity to sound off about your own in-laws! Tell the world the story, or stories, of your in-laws. We're looking for the funny ones, the sad ones, the crazy ones, and every story in-between.

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Enough is enough!

Posted on Wed, Apr. 01, 2015 at 06:56 am

Been married for 7 years and together 10 and we have 2 children. For 7 years I have been bullied and criticized by my in-laws. Sadly DH has guilted me to go back talking to them every time because it makes it harder for him when I do stand up for myself. They have no respect and undermine me as a mother at every turn. It's sad that their friends are more important then their family and it's a struggle DH has lived with his whole life, yet he always sticks up for them and says let it go and get over it. They are a rut in my marriage and they truly believe that they have a say so on how our children are raised. They are nuts! When I finally do say something, its a major fight and then it goes back to being okay until the next time they act like control freaks. MIL says I overreact and that she will always be queen B. FIL says that he wishes I would divorce their son so that he can have a normal life. It's hysterical since they talk to him only when I am fighting with them. They are deranged and bipolar. I have told DH I am done completely, if they want to see the kids then he has to take them and holiday dinners are now a thing of the past with them. I've tried for years to work on things to be at least on civil ground and it doesn't last with them. If it isn't their way then it's no way. Enough is enough. I am not going to be their punching bag any longer and I feel bad it upsets my husband but I can not live my life walking on egg shells and being around people that are so miserable with their own lives that they want to bring me down too. I do not want my children growing up thinking that it's okay to let anyone be down right mean to them, especially their own family. I'm so very happy that my parents are amazing and would never put my husband in any situation as this and that the kids have grandparents that love them and don't try to buy them as my in-laws do. Enough is enough!

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Burden

Posted on Wed, Apr. 01, 2015 at 06:02 am

My MIL enjoys being a burden on us, despite being fully able-bodied and not very old herself.
She expects everyone to bend to her will and do everything for her, or else she will have a fit.

DH and I just had a baby, we're exhausted. I'm getting constant migraines from stress. This weekend looked up, the baby sleeps through the night and it is the first weekend in a while that my husband will be home.
Of course, MIL decides she is visiting for the weekend "wether we like it or not". My husband has no spine.

So, this weekend I will be catering to MIL and taking care of the baby. MIL is amused by the baby for 10 minutes, then starts ordering us around.

I can't take this. I'm seriously thinking of telling her no and if she comes over I will call the cops.

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Anxiety

Posted on Tue, Mar. 31, 2015 at 03:07 pm

My MIL will be visiting for Easter. I am very ill and my doctors appointment isn't until after Easter.
I can already hear the pregnancy rumors flying.
Before I know it, I'll be recieving text messages from half of the family, congratulating or questioning me.
Then I will have to tell them all that I'm not pregnant and mil is just being a nut.
Yep. Happy Easter.

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I win the war

Posted on Tue, Mar. 31, 2015 at 03:01 pm

Yes mil along the way you won a few battles and got the better of me...but now your son sees you and your husband for what you are, emotionally abusive pieces of shit! What is he doing for you on mothers day??? Nothing! Your birthday is month after next and he won't be doing anything for you! You really should have left well enough alone when I said to stop badgering me and treating me like crap...but you didn't like that someone stood up to your abuses! Now I've shown my husband he can too! I can't wait to see your face when you realize you will be lucky to see your grandkids twice a year for a few hours!

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That's right Dear Husband

Posted on Tue, Mar. 31, 2015 at 03:01 pm

That's right dear husband. I don't like your family. I've tried and I'm tired of putting myself second to try. Your family is a bunch of self loving, judgemental assholes. And you get that disease when we see them.

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Signed, sealed and delivered.

Posted on Tue, Mar. 31, 2015 at 02:27 pm

Congratulations in-laws you win. Have my ball-less husband back. You all deserve each other anyway.

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Ex-Bil ... don't know whether to hate or pity you

Posted on Tue, Mar. 31, 2015 at 01:56 pm

Oh... ex-bil, so you sent a belated birthday card in the mail for my daughter, your niece and godchild, using the same old tired phrase you use time and time again, "We miss you and love you! Hope to see you soon!"

To anyone reading that card it would seem like you are a great uncle, but how far off the mark they would be. You and your other dopey brother with the chip on his shoulder, and your narcissistic father, just stood by in the past while your nasty wives and my DH's step-mother continued to tear me to shreds while hiding their fangs from others. They obviously didn't give a shit how targeting DH's wife and the mother of his children would obviously have a detrimental impact on family relationships, especially when children are involved ... and you didn't care enough, nor take what my DH was saying to you seriously enough, to put your foot down and do something about it.

For years you 3 men marginalized my DH and took him for granted, like he would always be the brother and son you could push to the side and he would keep coming back for more; that might have been, but too bad you didn't factor in me and how dead serious I become when continuous bullshit occurs. I'm the type of person who will give people many (probably too many) chances, but mark my word, once I'm done, I'm done for good.

So keep sending cards hoping that we'll miraculously 'forgive and forget' everything that's happened. You should know that MY definition of forgiveness isn't about pretending like nothing happened. To me, real forgiveness and any possibility of reconciliation involves BOTH parties being transparent and acknowledging the wrongs that were done. If there is no acknowledgment of wrongs how on earth could you ever expect us to even consider trusting you or wanting to be around any of you again?!

You are not transparent, especially since your wife was the most obvious culprit of the bunch. Your words are boring and same old and kind of pitiful in away -- you seem to be taking it the hardest that we don't come around you guys anymore, and I guess it's kind of sad for you, but then again you can't seem to put two-and-two together as to why that might be.

So no, ex-bil, even though I used to erroneously put you and the other ones on a pedestal, you mean nothing to me anymore, and as long as you keep this non-transparent act up we won't be seeing you 'soon' or ever again... and p.s. don't call that bi#@! you recently got back together with my daughter's 'aunt.' She will NEVER be her aunt. She forfeited that right from the very start of my relations with her when she decided it was her place to be a raging a-hole.

'Love' Your Ex-SIL.

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Your Best isn't good enough.

Posted on Tue, Mar. 31, 2015 at 11:10 am

MIL you say that you are trying "your best" when it comes to my son's food allergy. But buying food that he can't eat when there are safe options is not "your best". You are too freaking worried that a cupcake is fun instead of safe. Then when you tell me a food is safe when I can see with my own eyes that it isn't. You are a miserable self absorbed asshole and you have raised your kids to be the same. Good job!

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Oh you have got to be kidding me

Posted on Tue, Mar. 31, 2015 at 11:01 am

No husband, I will NOT try and "build bridges" with your abusive family.
Give me one good reason WHY I should let these toxic individuals back into my life when they made my life a living hell!
Husband you of all people know exactly what they did!!!
I can't believe you even speak to them, let alone ask me this question.
They have you so wrapped around there little fingers it makes me sick and angry.
So no husband, just to confirm, I WILL NOT MEET UP WITH YOUR HELL LIKE FAMILY AND FORGET ME EVER BUILDING BRIDGES WITH THEM!!!!!!!!!!!

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At Last

Posted on Tue, Mar. 31, 2015 at 07:06 am

It has been 3 years since I stopped having a relationship with my in-laws, and longer since I have seen them. During that time I have healed, I have forgiven them and I have moved on. No longer am I controlled by the hurt and hate that had consumed me for so long.

As far as my DH goes, our marriage couldn't be better. When I stopped complaining, threatening and forcing him to see his family for who they are, he had the time to evaluate them and their behavior for himself. He finally came to the conclusion that they were indeed toxic, and other than very brief phone calls to his mom and dad every 3 to 6 months, he has no relationship with the rest of them.

To all of those who are hurting, please read 'Boundaries' by Drs Townsend and Cloud. Work through YOUR issues with your in-laws, and believe God for the rest. Forgive, move on, don't fall into their traps again and go back into toxic relationships, and live this wonderful thing called life to its fullest!!

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