I Hate My Inlaws!

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In-laws, and the quarrels they start, have been the subject of stories for many years. This is your opportunity to sound off about your own in-laws! Tell the world the story, or stories, of your in-laws. We're looking for the funny ones, the sad ones, the crazy ones, and every story in-between.

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Stand off.

Posted on Sun, Jan. 25, 2015 at 02:04 pm

You are a very negative, gossip and drama fueled family.

You're causing my husband a terrible amount of stress. You know it, yet you continue to act like 5 year olds.

I think what makes him most upset is that he sees that his family could keep pulling the same sick co dependent bullshit and allow the same crap to continue, even though it is tearing him apart.

You need to own up to all of the OBVIOUS bullshit you've pulled over the years and apologize to the both of us.

Otherwise...

That's not love. That's not even close.

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Mixed Feelings

Posted on Sun, Jan. 25, 2015 at 01:07 pm

It's been 18 months. 28 months since you demanded that your 39 year old son leave me - his wife and partner of 15 years, and the mother of his four children. 18 months since I found this out. 18 months since I couldn't take it anymore and attempted suicide. 18 months since I walked out of a psychiatric hospital days later on the advice to cut you all permanently from my life.

It's been 18 months since I last had any contact with you. My husband is still trapped in your controlling web. He still sees you. Still talks to you. But the tables have turned. It used to be me who told him of how awkward and awful our visits were. Now he comes home from his meetings with you and it is I who comforts him.

It's been 18 months since you saw your grandchildren. During that time your eldest granddaughter has had a baby. She was relieved that you were off on another holiday when she gave birth. It meant that she didn't have to see you. It could be all about her and her baby.

At Christmas time I gave the other children the option to see you. All three of them said no. You see, they saw the eye rolls, heard the uttered insults, felt the uncomfortable awkwardness. They are my children. They love their mother and they do not need to spend time with people who are mean and cruel. In any case you don't have much of a relationship with them as you were never really there.

18 months of guilt. I've felt that it was me who drove a wedge into your family. But then I remember that the definition of your family does not include me in it. So, where does that place the people I have birth to? They are my family. My husband is my family. I still don't think you understand that.

18 months of relief. You finally revealed your true feelings to my husband. All those years of telling him what I saw/felt/heard, only to be told I was imagining it. I am grateful that you did the work for me. My husband and I are so much closer than before. He thought he'd nearly lost me. So now he listens, is more present and is sorry he put me through knowing you all those years. He's more protective and agrees that I never should have to see or speak to you again.

Darlings, I'm not going anywhere.

18 months of thinking and worrying about the future. Children and grandchildren should be at family events (70th birthdays, Christmas parties, christenings). I give my children the choice and they always say no. But do they do that out of concern for me? I doubt it. They remember.

18 months of preparing my sad face for when I hear that you have died. Bring on that day. I haven't quite perfected it yet. I think I'll say something to the effect of "Oh. I'm sorry to hear that. Is there anything I can do to help?", and than hope like hell that I can have the satisfaction of hearing my own children refuse to attend your funeral.

After the last 17 years I deserve a little fun with this right?

I'm the mother and grandparent now. Sad to lose your place isn't it?

I did learn how not to be a crap mother in law/grandmother. So thank you for that. But I do have to spend the rest of your life feeling sad for you that you never experienced family the way that we are.

Hope to never see your miserable faces again.

X

Your son's wife

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I haven't finished getting over the last one yet!

Posted on Sun, Jan. 25, 2015 at 07:45 am

I couldn't believe it when my husband brought up that the in-laws are wanting to know what the arrangements are for this Christmas!!!!
How I reacted when he told me that? Well put it this way, about 10 seconds later I had my head down the toilet being violently sick with total anxiety and general dread.
I told him to tell them that we'll get back to them later on in the year about that.

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Ungrateful INLAWS

Posted on Sun, Jan. 25, 2015 at 01:37 am

I hate my MIL, FIL, and BIL! They always defend my husband and never put themselves in my position. I can't understand how they are so blind to his bullshit. I'm always the bad guy even though I AM the one who always involves them in their grandchildrens lives. I go out of my way to be kind to them and they take me for granted. Not anymore... I'm done.

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I should have done this a long time ago...

Posted on Sat, Jan. 24, 2015 at 09:22 pm

I honestly get such severe anxiety when I see this woman, or even when I see her name come up on my caller id, or if I know we have to 'visit' her... I feel like I'm going to throw up. My palms get sweaty, I feel like my heart is going to jump out of my skin. She has done so much to me that I don't know where to start... My MIL is pure evil.
It started when I met my DH, and came to a head when our daughter was born, and she has continued to try to rake me through the coals at every chance she gets. She harps on anything I say and twists things to incriminate me to my DH.
She told DH he HAD to make sure she was in the delivery room when our baby was born and that she didn't want to 'listen to all the moaning and labor crap, just come get me right before the birth.' To me, she said, 'I don't really care about you. I just want to see my baby be born.' She also doesn't like how I nursed our daughter; thought it was 'selfish' because it meant that others wouldn't be able to feed her. The Christmas after my daughter was born, she told me that I needed to hide in an upstairs bedroom (where the heat had been turned off) and sit on a hard bed to nurse. DH didn't know that I was up there in the cold... He thought I was in the next room. When people were asking where I went, she said, 'Oh, she is taking her sweet time with breastfeeding my baby.'
Because we lived in the same house as them, she would come down to our apartment every night after she got home from work and demand to hold my child... Whether I was feeding her or not.
One day, she came down to our apartment in the morning before work, let herself in (to 'check on the baby'), and decided to turn our heat down. She admitted later that evening that she had done so: 'It's too hot in your apartment.' I was furious, yet kept my cool and went home. I was discussing how I was feeling smothered to DH, and snotty SIL overheard outside our closed door and ran to my MIL to tell her what I horrible person I was. My MIL came rushing in and told me, 'You have something t say to me, you Little Bitch?!' I tried to reason with her and asked respectfully for space, so I could adjust to being a new mom, and she flipped at me. 'This can go two ways. We can get along and I will be a good MIL. Or you can get a side of me that will make your life a living hell.'

Things haven't changed in two years. We have distanced ourselves by moving out and getting on with our lives. DH has been put in the middle of all his MIL, SIL, and then the FIL's antics... And they all have targeted me. I'm lucky to have DH... but not sure how much more we can take.

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Dear In Laws....

Posted on Sat, Jan. 24, 2015 at 07:50 pm

I f*****g HATE you!!!! Please dissappear soon.
That is all.

Sincerely,
Your fed up DIL

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Help

Posted on Sat, Jan. 24, 2015 at 07:48 pm

I will be married 25 years this summer, our marriage went through a bad patch for a couple of years recently due to financial and emotional problems, we were always so strong together but when things went bad we blamed each other, my husband was caught with an ex girlfriend who we had recently reacquainted after many years by our daughter, she was devastated and ran straight to her granny (my mother in law) who instead of consoling her told her that everyone would hate her if she told what she saw, my daughter who thank God is a stronger person than I am wouldn't listen to her and walked away, my mil has not spoke to her since or to any of my children( I have 4 kids 19 the youngest) and has for whatever reason. Decided to tell a different story and turned the whole family against me and my children, I am not the type of person to discuss family to other family members so as a result everyone only hears her account, my children are astounded to see their granny run them down as they would never expect that from family and although I have been on the receiving end of her nastiness before I never told them as not to cloud their judgement, my husband is caught in the middle at the moment as now my children don't want anything to do with his family and his mother told me she never wants to see, hear or speak to me again( funny as I was at home minding our grandchild on the night this all happened and knew nothing about it) she is also posing in photos on Facebook with the girl in question and I am quite embarrassed as I don't know what to say to my children when they broach the subject, am I overly sensitive??

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MIL & SIL are the Worst

Posted on Sat, Jan. 24, 2015 at 07:05 pm

My SIL has no life, she is pushing 35 never been married or have kids. All she does is sing in an awful Mexican group. I'm Mexican too, but they are bad. She does earn a living but does nothing else besides that and gossip. She is the only girl in the family and still has her parents around her fingers. She starts gossip with my husband and I. My amazingly stupid MIL believes every word that comes out of her mouth and there starts the drama. Both of them are the Worst. They are always in out lives as if they don't have anything else to do. We can't go one day without having to deal with them. My kids don't even like spending time with the MIL or SIL. My MIL needs to focus more on her marriage then mine. Her husband is probably messing around while she is worried about my marriage. My husband and I go at it all the time because he doesn't think his sister is that bad. Only time will time. When Karma comes back to bite her in the butt. Good luck to both of you.

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Eyeroll

Posted on Sat, Jan. 24, 2015 at 06:53 pm

DH birthday is coming up. I am already anticipating drama from his attention whore sister.

She is so deadly jealous of DH, it's beyond logic. She is probably going to make an 'episode' to steal the attention away from him. Like usual.

We are so used to her drama queen bullshit.

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MIL is chomping at the bit to attack me

Posted on Sat, Jan. 24, 2015 at 06:17 am

Anything I say or do, she twists it around, gets defensive and attacks me for it. Then cries to FIL, SIL or DH about how "mean" I am.
Well, DH saw that she is just trying to make shit up, so he never listened to it.
Since DH wouldn't listen to it, she needed to get someone else stirred up in her web. SIL is a huge gossip, who does the same thing as her mother..so SIL was the next best candidate.
Once SIL was convinced, she (SIL) moved on to FIL.
FIL knows MIL likes to make crap up, so he won't listen to her either. However, SIL is his golden. Whatever SIL says is the law of the land.
Once SIL convinces FIL, they set their eyes on various aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents.
They ran into a problem there though, because everyone else *knows* they both (MIL and SIL) like to make things up and stir up drama. So no one else listens. Thank god!
Well, except for MIL's mom. Who is on her death bed and is convinced the pictures on her walls are conspiring against her. I don't care about that, other than its sad.

Honestly, MIL and SIL need a new hobby that they can do during work hours instead of try to start family drama while they're at work. Maybe they can start...you know..actually working.
Gasp!

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