I Hate My Inlaws!

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In-laws, and the quarrels they start, have been the subject of stories for many years. This is your opportunity to sound off about your own in-laws! Tell the world the story, or stories, of your in-laws. We're looking for the funny ones, the sad ones, the crazy ones, and every story in-between.

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It Doesn't Get Crazier Than This

Posted on Mon, Jul. 13, 2015 at 02:51 pm

I dated my boyfriend, turned fiance, turned ex-fiance, for 2 years. We were really happy, really in love, and ready to start a life together. It turns out, however, it was a big mistake to accept his proposal--not exactly because of him, but because of his family. Hindsight is 20/20.

Almost-SIL: I started to sense the weirdness in the family from her first. I agreed to go on their annual Christmas vacation after we had been dating for 6 months, and we were still in school. I met his sister only one time previously, briefly, at a wedding. 3 weeks before the big trip, I get an email from his sister, attached with a seven page personalized itinerary outlining a daily 5:30 a.m. wake-up call, the meals I am expected to cook, the chores I am expected to do, exercises I am instructed to do, and (I swear this is true) "learning objectives" I am expected to accomplish. Needless to say, the trip was terrible and I wanted nothing more than to be back in my home state with my family. I also caught mono on the trip and took about 6 months to recover. It all just got crazier from there. Examples: On my birthday, she sent me a box containing a birthday card for brother (his birthday wasn't until 4 months later) and an unpackaged electric toothbrush broken in pieces. When her brother and I decided we wanted to move in together, she sent us a very lengthy Excel spreadsheet detailing everything she wanted us to discuss before moving in, including suggested answers. When her brother told her that he was about to propose, she responded with asking, "How do you feel about that?" and when he said he felt positively about it (I mean, of course?), she quickly said she had to go and hung up. She then proceeded to throw a fit about the fact that we were getting married before her, even though she had previously gone out of her way to announce she was in "no rush" to get married (I learned of this fit through MIL). She then proceeded to let us know that she intends to get married on the same date, at the same venue we had selected. Note: she was not even engaged. Maybe all of these stories would make more sense if I had ever been anything but kind to her and her family, especially her brother. The weirdest it got was when she was (I promise this is real) giddy at her father's funeral--I had never before seen anything like it, and I hope I never do again. She capped off that day by publicly interrogating me about prenups, berating me for not wanting one--after I had done absolutely everything for her and her family, for a week straight, leading up to the funeral. My ex-fiance never saw this behavior as strange or inappropriate and never, ever stood up for me. I could go on, but then I would have to write a novel. I believe (and professionals unfortunately agree) that she is a straight-up psychopath.

Almost-MIL: When I met my ex-fiance, to my great confusion, I learned that his mother did not live with his then-ailing father, even though they were still married. She hadn't for some time, and had no intention to ever move back or care for him. I never understood this bizarre dynamic, but my ex-fiance didn't seem to, either. I thought it best not to press the issue, as it didn't seem to be by business. His mom just got worse from there. For brevity's sake, I'll just keep it to the facts: she is a fat, white trash freeloader who abandoned her husband until he died alone in his house. She never showed any sort of sadness or discomfort at the fact that her husband died suddenly, except for when she was looking for his bank accounts. Once she found them, she went back to being completely unfazed. She bragged to me later that despite finding the bank accounts, she got her sister to pay for the entire funeral bill. How tacky. My ex-fiance deeply loved his father, but it never even crossed his mind to have the tiniest resentment towards his mother for breaking the vow of "in sickness and in health." Other examples: his mom never acknowledged our engagement--not even a "congratulations" comment--save for interrogating us about the finances for the wedding; his mom informed me she will be living with us (and off of us) every other month; his mom wanted to share my fork and knife at Easter rather than get her own from the kitchen 2 feet away (EW!); his mom would gleefully announce at family gatherings that she will "never have grandchildren" (I have no idea why, we wanted kids and told her this often--don't most MILs want that??). Again, ex-fiance thought all of this behavior wasn't even worth discussing.

I should have seen this coming, but like I said, 20/20. I went out of town for a weekend to see a friend. His mom came into town while I was gone, and she and his sister basically instructed him to break up with me and cleaned out our shared apartment. When I came home, he broke up with me completely out of the blue. We weren't unhappy, weren't fighting, etc. etc. He couldn't even give me a reason as to why. During the 30 minutes or so it took him to break up with me, his mom called him non-stop to ensure he was doing it. I now see that because his father has died, his mom needs unfettered financial support from someone, and she saw her son having a family as a hindrance to that.

Needless to say, I am relieved I won't have to be part of this family.

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SIL You've reaped what you've sown

Posted on Mon, Jul. 13, 2015 at 02:07 pm

Today is the anniversary of your mothers death. I'm sure you'll call in sick to work, and go to church all day, where you will put on a display so everyone will see you, and pay attention to you, and feel sorry for you. Too bad you treated your mother so disrespectfully when she was alive. Whining, lying, venomous mouth towards her and all your brothers and sisters. And now you're alone. And no one gives a s**t about you. You try to worm your way in, but your past acts have finished everyone off. No one has any use for you, because you are so toxic. Hope you are happy the way your life turned out, cause it's no ones fault but yours.

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I guess it's to be expected

Posted on Mon, Jul. 13, 2015 at 01:37 pm

My fil has treated me badly ever since I married dh. He has accused me of horrible things I didn't do such as cheating on dh and acts like I'm stupid to name a few.(I have about 10 more years of education than fil)

My fil is now old, weak and ill. I try to muster up some empathy, I dig deep down to find my compassion and I just don't feel anything. There is just nothing there.

I guess that's what happens when someone treats you like crap for 20+ years.

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My fil is disgusting

Posted on Mon, Jul. 13, 2015 at 01:26 pm

We have a bathroom downstairs just off the hallway. We can hear the toilet flush and the water from the sink run.

Fil doesn't wash his hands after he uses the bathroom. After he leaves I sanitize everything I think he has touched and then some.

But the disgusting habit of not washing his hands is not as bad as his personality. I you can believe it that's even more disgusting.

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The Letter I Wish I Could Send

Posted on Mon, Jul. 13, 2015 at 12:18 pm

Dear Mother in law,
Why must you constantly be on the lookout for me doing something wrong? Why are you constantly on a witch hunt trying to find me stabbing you in the back? I am not like you, so you can trust me. I will not talk badly to other relatives behind you back, so why accuse me of doing so? Why accuse me of things I have not done?

Just because I am in my 20's without being knocked up, have a nice car and am education doesn't give you the right to try and bring me down out of jealousy.

Mother in law, after I have spent money on helping your family, spent time assisting you and bent over backwards to win your good regard why do you dislike me? Why have you never so much as wished me a happy birthday but you've thrown an expensive party and gifts for those little party bitches your favorite son enjoys?

Dear Mother in law, why have you been the dark shadow lurking over my Fiancé and I's whole relationship? We have been nothing but a help to you and you try to drag our long term committed relationship down in favor or your favorite son's flings?

Mother in law, I hope you don't expect to be there when your grandkids are born, when we finally have our wedding and when we have a happy home to our own. When my Fiancé and I are married we'll happily leave you and your bitterness behind.

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For Every Step You Take To Try And Control Us...

Posted on Mon, Jul. 13, 2015 at 09:57 am

...we shall take many steps to GET AWAY from you.

I sincerely hope you have found this site and you do feel a twinge in your gut as you read the stories here. You damn well should!

You need to learn, you nasty, self-centered bullies, about how your selfishness affects others. You have made your son's life HELL! Telling him how to live his life, constantly sticking your noses into business that ISN'T YOURS! Going on and on and on about what people should be doing when what that means is you want them to do what YOU want.

You actually make me sick! I hate you SO f*****g much! You two cretins and your other son who is an absolute shit are all as dysfunctional as each other. Crass, common and vulgar.

I am just waiting to hear that you have both snuffed it so that we are rid of the non-stop nightmare that is YOU! You will always buzz around like annoying insects while you still breath, you just can't help it! You HAVE to try and dominate every little aspect of our lives, don't you. And yet you fail, fail, FAIL!!!!!

I am so bloody glad you are driving each other mad! I am so glad you are both now really miserable in your old age, you bastards. You deserve each other. I don't care that you are bored and want someone to talk to, do NOT call us. You won't get to leave a message as I have turned the machine off so that I don't have to listen to your pathetic voice saying "I have tried to call you, you were not in again". TAKE THE HINT!

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Sore Losers

Posted on Mon, Jul. 13, 2015 at 08:02 am

My bastard and bitch-in-laws (AKA PILs) continuously called my home phone starting at 6:30 this morning. (They know my husband leaves for work at 6:15 AM.) I haven't answer their calls for a couple of years and didn't this morning either. They called my husband at work, which is a big no-no unless there is an emergency. I know they called him because he called at 9:00 and said, "Hi Honey. I know what's going on I want you to call and change our home phone number. Do not give the new number to anyone in my family. If my parents start to blow up your cellphone, get that number changed as well. Gotta go. Love you." I just finished my happy dance and "I Won, You Lost" song. I feel empowered! Yep, PILs played "Chicken", see previous stories, and are sore losers. :-)

My SIL, my margarita pal, called and said bastard and bitch-in-law did the same thing to her this morning. Unfortunately, BIL refused to get involved. SIL asked if I would drive her to the airport this afternoon. She's spending the rest of the summer, unknown to BIL, with her aunt in Texas. She's filing for divorce as soon as possible. I must say she sounded strong, resolved and relieved. BIL may not have her back, but I do, and always will. Hopefully BIL will grow a pair before he meets wife number four! :-(

It's only 10:00 AM but I'm going to have a margarita and do another happy dance. Cheers!

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No, Just No!

Posted on Mon, Jul. 13, 2015 at 07:01 am

I thought about sending something passive aggressive but then it dawned on me it was a total waste of time! If you don't like me after 10 years you'll probably never like me. Forget you assholes!

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Divorce your in-laws!

Posted on Mon, Jul. 13, 2015 at 05:29 am

If your spouse is okay and supportive but your in-laws are problematic, then divorce your in-laws not your spouse. You married your spouse not your in-laws. If they continually cross boundaries and cause conflicts in your marriage then cut them out. DH and I just did that a few years ago and our marriage has never been better. We originally cut them out for 7 years which was totally blissful, then ESIL came slithering back to us like a snake in the grass because her daughter go married and had children, she wanted us to be godparents to spoil her grandchildren with money and gifts, never mind that we were not invited to NIL's wedding. Weirdos! Well, we gave them a second chance and they proved to be just as bad as they always have been so we've cut them out for good now. Halleuyah, praise the lord. Maybe I've gotten rid of those dirtbags once and for all. My hubby is okay but I've decided not to be disrespected and taken advantage of anymore by toxic in-laws. Hip hip hooray! I'm free!

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They think...

Posted on Sun, Jul. 12, 2015 at 05:08 pm

They think they can play favorites & treat us like crap.


They think that, just because we have a home with extra space, they are going to live with us. They made an open & public declaration that was how things were going to be.



I know that I will be locking them in a kennel, but then the animal activists may think I'm being cruel to all the other animals.

So, I think maybe, we will put them in a little raft, (with no water or food) & push them into the ocean if they survive we will consider the kennel. If not, oh well, it was not meant to be.

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