I Hate My Inlaws!

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Posted on Mon, Jun. 01, 2015 at 12:25 am

My sister-in-law is so odd. The three years DH and I dated she barely said two words to me. She was aloof and not very welcoming. I made efforts to get to know her, but it was like pulling teeth to get her to have a conversation with me. At first it didn't bother me. I figured she was just shy, and as a shy person myself I understood that she would come out of her shell whenever she was ready. Three years of dating, and the aloofness continued. Then I got engaged to her brother, and it was like a complete 180. When I saw her after we announced our engagement she gave me a very sweet, thoughtful gift. She would text me and ask how the wedding planning was going, and she would actually share things with me about herself! Well, she DID make a passive-aggressive comment about the way we chose to announce our engagement to our families, but I chose to ignore it. I was happy with how we announced OUR engagement, so that was all that mattered. Anyway, I married my DH and we moved to a different state. SIL would occasionally text me and ask me how we were doing, and she would share how she and her family were doing. We weren't BFFs or anything, but we had a healthy communication going, and were building a good foundation for getting to know each other better. It has been a year and a half since I married her brother...and she has gone back to her original aloofness. At first, she would share what was going on in her life with me. After awhile, she would text me and ask me how life was, I would answer her questions and then ask her how her and her family were doing, and she wouldn't respond. Or she would just give a general response like, "We're fine". Now we don't text at all. But then she sends me birthday cards and writes really sweet messages in them. It's confusing that she writes about how much she likes being family, but then keeps her distance from me. Maybe I said something that offended her? Or maybe she has decided that she is fine with our relationship as is and doesn't want it to go any further. I admit it's disappointing, as I would like for us to have a good relationship, and it is frustrating that she is so closed off. Maybe I'm expecting too much? I confess I have reached the point where I am tired of caring. If she doesn't want a close relationship, fine. I'll have to learn to get over that, I guess.

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