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by rubycrownedkinglet
Sat Jan 04, 2020 2:49 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Another generation is born into the toxic ILs
Replies: 7
Views: 381

Re: Another generation is born into the toxic ILs

Ironically, MIL, now deceased, would have been horrified at the things that FN has done in the last couple of years. In fact, MIL died right after she found out that FN had been arrested again for her third DUI, after the incident was written up in their local newspaper. It was one thing if FN was ...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Wed Jan 01, 2020 12:35 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Another generation is born into the toxic ILs
Replies: 7
Views: 381

Re: Another generation is born into the toxic ILs

A baby is certainly a blessing and it shocks me that GSIL isn't using the baby to get all that precious attention for herself. Just the opposite, I guess, since taking possession of the baby would be so much work. In her defense, it is a good idea to let FN reap what she sowed and learn how to care ...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Wed Dec 18, 2019 11:05 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Update: Eddie Munster
Replies: 5
Views: 355

Update: Eddie Munster

When my ESIL died suddenly three years ago, she left behind CluelessBIL and a teen son I've always called Eddie Munster. Why? Because he was always a little dark, obsessed with violence, guns and death, and a bit disturbed. He was expelled from school in the second grade for threatening the life of ...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Mon Dec 16, 2019 9:41 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Christmas Gifts
Replies: 7
Views: 537

Re: Christmas Gifts

Thanks, everybody. It's so good to be able to run these dilemmas past people who have been there and done that. I can't imagine a Christmas with no gifts to make or wrap because I realize I am the one that really enjoys that part the most. To me, that IS Christmas. Sooo, I just wrapped some things y...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Fri Dec 06, 2019 1:10 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Christmas Gifts
Replies: 7
Views: 537

Christmas Gifts

For those of you that are newer to this forum, my DH and I cut off the ones that were left of his adopted family 8 years ago and never regretted it. In the mean time, through DNA research, we located DH's biological family and found that he had a half sister. After thinking about it a year, he decid...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Wed Dec 04, 2019 10:27 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Guilt Trip
Replies: 10
Views: 617

Re: Guilt Trip

I remember MIL's guilt trips well, and they were epic. The first 10-15 minutes of every conversation with DH, whether he called MIL or she called him, was wasted on the fact that he had not called her before that moment. Even if it had just been a few days since she'd seen us or talked, he was ALWAY...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Sat Nov 30, 2019 11:49 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Cancerous Brother-in-law
Replies: 5
Views: 434

Re: Cancerous Brother-in-law

WTF, Melody! I thought I was reading a post about my EBIL. Not for the first time, I've wondered if our ILs are related to each other. :lol: Like WTTBT, I'm giving unsolicited advice, buuuut: It's time to tell your DH that letting BIL in the house must never happen again. He has used his last pass a...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Tue Nov 26, 2019 1:38 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Update on my Golden SIL
Replies: 7
Views: 479

Re: Update on my Golden SIL

The question is: Would any of you give an apology to an IL if it caused harmony in the family, even if you have nothing to apologize for? Awww, hailll naw! [In Redneckian] I have apologized to people in work situations even though I didn't think I had anything to apologize for. It was because I bel...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Mon Nov 25, 2019 9:57 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Indian mother in law problems
Replies: 10
Views: 704

Re: Indian mother in law problems

Oh, Yes, I think all of this^^^^^ :lol: :lol: Definitely
by rubycrownedkinglet
Sun Nov 24, 2019 3:37 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: MIL in Hospital & The Dog
Replies: 8
Views: 377

Re: MIL in Hospital & The Dog

About your recovering MIL: Some people are just spirit suckers. There is no doubt they feel completely entitled to their family's and friends' efforts with no thought of ever reciprocating. Odd though that she didn't want to put her brother out at least until his trip. I'll bet he is the one that ha...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Tue Nov 19, 2019 3:57 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Hello
Replies: 3
Views: 249

Re: Hello

Hi Cindy. I look forward to you sharing what happened to the relationship with your ILs and how you came to cut them off. This is a great group of understanding folks who have shared sad, infuriating and hilarious stories of dealing with ILs and with SOs who are slow on the uptake about which family...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Fri Nov 15, 2019 10:59 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Hi
Replies: 5
Views: 717

Re: Hi

I'm sorry for the sadness and disappointment your DD is going through, but I am relieved for her that she is getting out now. The hardest part to come will be if he tries to 'win her back' with some grand gesture that will appear romantic, but in reality will be done to try to control her. She was s...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Mon Nov 11, 2019 10:01 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: BIL Hits One Outta the Park
Replies: 9
Views: 704

Re: BIL Hits One Outta the Park

KeeperofPrecious, :lol:
I had the same issue for a long time!
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by rubycrownedkinglet
Thu Nov 07, 2019 6:13 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: BIL Hits One Outta the Park
Replies: 9
Views: 704

Re: BIL Hits One Outta the Park

Isn't it amazing how they never cease to surprise us...by behaving in ways that are not surprising at all. It's like getting a gift of verification of our worst opinions of them. When I first met CluelessBIL, my ESILs DH, I thought he was just a loser, i.e. harmless, but would never hold a good job ...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Thu Oct 24, 2019 10:27 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Of Course MIL is texting me now...
Replies: 7
Views: 481

Re: Of Course MIL is texting me now...

No response at all. I know it's hard because this is your opportunity to get your say...but don't. When your DH asks you, tell him you read the text, but you have considered it and you don't want to have contact with her again. She hasn't changed, you haven't changed. You are going to let it go. He ...