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by rubycrownedkinglet
Mon May 10, 2021 4:03 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: My FIL finally died
Replies: 16
Views: 2137

Re: My FIL finally died

I second what the others have said about GSIL with one add-on: If the loss of some or all of your DH's inheritance is not great enough for him to finally see GSIL for what she is, he never will. Just imagining that he would give her children anything when they have been the beneficiaries of all kind...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Sun Feb 21, 2021 10:30 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: My Evil Pervert FIL is DEAD/@willthetruthbetold
Replies: 4
Views: 758

Re: My Evil Pervert FIL is DEAD/@willthetruthbetold

No one can prepare you for the relief when you find out that your degenerate IL(s) are well and truly GONE. Congratulations seem inappropriate, yet also understate the gratified feeling of being free of their presence on this earth. Even if you haven't been in contact with them for years, it is...di...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Sun Jan 17, 2021 2:53 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: My FIL finally died
Replies: 16
Views: 2137

Re: My FIL finally died

First let me say the obvious: Ding Dong, the old bitch is dead! Pretend like I wrote condolences, but we both know that congratulations are much more in order. Time to don the red dress and do the dance. Even if you are spared a funeral, thank God, at least a little celebration is warranted. Your FI...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Tue Jan 05, 2021 10:37 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Thank You Again, Quarantine
Replies: 1
Views: 849

Re: Thank You Again, Quarantine

Just last Saturday, I had my monthly Facetime call with my bestie. Of the many things we talked about, the subject of her ILs came up and she admitted, somewhat guiltily, how relieved she was that they had a legitimate excuse not to see them for the last year. The part that sort of surprised me was ...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Tue Jan 05, 2021 10:31 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: How Is The Holidays
Replies: 3
Views: 713

Re: How Is The Holidays

I rather live in a shoe box then ever going back to living with them. I'd say the same except insert cat box ! For some reason I never understood, my MIL wanted us to live with her when we first got married. She wanted it badly enough to steal a good portion of DH's savings so that we couldn't affo...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Wed Dec 16, 2020 5:21 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Is it weird that I don’t like my in laws?
Replies: 4
Views: 1231

Re: Is it weird that I don’t like my in laws?

No it's not weird at all. Especially in this group! I wouldn't feel badly about it. Welcome. I'm not sure how I feel about including both sets of parents in family times. We never did that, even though they lived in the same town for many years. I could see though how it might not be too bad for you...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Tue Dec 15, 2020 4:09 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: MIL sighting - in MY neighborhood
Replies: 2
Views: 710

Re: MIL sighting - in MY neighborhood

Jeez, momjeans, I remember the feeling! I got a shot of adrenaline and a chill like I'd seen a ghost. Shortly after the final cutoff with the DH's ESIBS, I did a huge double-take when I saw a vehicle just like EBILs POS rebel-yell pickem' up truck. It was too far away for me to see the license plate...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Sat Nov 07, 2020 5:24 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Motivations for horrible IL's to insist on having "a relationship"
Replies: 4
Views: 1378

Re: Motivations for horrible IL's to insist on having "a relationship"

It does baffle the mind why people who clearly don't like us would want to keep up contact, as though they are obligated somehow. Let us go. My DH made it clear to his ESIBs that their relationship was over, literally saying to each of them, "Don't ever call me again!" I'm not sure why that wasn't e...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Tue Nov 03, 2020 4:42 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Upsides to the Pandemic and preparing for the holidays
Replies: 4
Views: 992

Re: Upsides to the Pandemic and preparing for the holidays

Do I mention the predictable love bombing to DH? I get the temptation to do it, you know I do, but I think that is one particularly mangy sleeping mutt that I would let lie. I'd wait until she reaches out and then say something like, "Right on time. You could set your calendar by her." It is sad fo...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Wed Oct 28, 2020 5:43 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Holding a Grudge
Replies: 4
Views: 1210

Re: Holding a Grudge

Personally, where my own in-laws are concerned I feel that the two concepts (holding a grudge vs. setting boundaries) are not mutually exclusive If someone had told me I was "just" holding a grudge shortly after WW-IL, I would have denied it. Saying such a thing almost seems to dismiss that there a...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Fri Oct 16, 2020 3:30 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Update on "The Next Time You Visit!"
Replies: 10
Views: 2169

Re: Update on "The Next Time You Visit!"

And yes, I really can't figure out WHY they want to keep in touch, other than fear of looking bad in the eyes of whomever they actually care about. Wouldn't that be a good topic of it's own? I have no doubt that for many of the ILs that just won't quit it is to avoid looking bad to someone else or ...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Sat Oct 10, 2020 4:35 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Update on "The Next Time You Visit!"
Replies: 10
Views: 2169

Re: Update on "The Next Time You Visit!"

PutMILinherplace wrote:
Fri Oct 09, 2020 5:22 pm
"Hon, you are looking for a fleck of gold in a pile of dog crap."
:lol: :lol: :lol:
by rubycrownedkinglet
Sat Oct 10, 2020 4:33 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Update on "The Next Time You Visit!"
Replies: 10
Views: 2169

Re: Update on "The Next Time You Visit!"

Wow, that was a close call. I'm glad your Duh graduated to a DH. It gives people hope to read stories of DH's that are not clueless. I'm also glad that your kids felt comfortable enough to be honest with him about FIL and Stepmonster, and that he listened to them. Kudos to the real agent of change.....
by rubycrownedkinglet
Wed Sep 09, 2020 5:22 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Stepmonster's Reign of Terror may be ending!
Replies: 4
Views: 1292

Re: Stepmonster's Reign of Terror may be ending!

It doesn't seem like Stepmonster is doing well at all. I feel the Schadenfreude and I've never even met her. I'm glad your DH is on board with the minimalism of the contact, but at least this last visit gave you a better glimpse into what's really happening. I don't want to wish ill on anyone but so...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Thu Sep 03, 2020 4:13 pm
Forum: Non-In-Laws Talk
Topic: I hate making things for people
Replies: 3
Views: 1949

Re: I hate making things for people

Miwako, I know how you feel. I want to volunteer for so many things and there are volunteer things I do every year to help people. However, sometimes I get overzealous or I just say yes to the wrong thing and I regret it. Then it's too late to back down. One notable exception that I learned from: La...