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by Melody
Sat Dec 14, 2019 10:11 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Told you so!
Replies: 2
Views: 73

Re: Told you so!

Thank you Keeper! I actually hadn't thought of it that way, lol. When DH tells me he doesn't want "to get me (you) going", I'm thinking more "set me off" I took it to mean more of a "I know you think my mother is evil, but....." type of thing where he tries to justify her crappy behavior. (And "moth...
by Melody
Thu Dec 12, 2019 10:26 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Told you so!
Replies: 2
Views: 73

Told you so!

So the other weekend we went to nephew's "coffee and cake" thing at DH's brother and SIL's house. This is something that lasts for under 2 1/2 hours. DH and I arrive 20 minutes late to the bore fest and, FIL and stepmonster told BIL and SIL that they were coming. Ten minutes later BIL calls and they...
by Melody
Mon Dec 09, 2019 10:50 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Guilt Trip
Replies: 9
Views: 283

Re: Guilt Trip

@WhyOhWhy - just enough of a of sh*t stir to change the balance of things.

I never used to think this way, but now I'm ROFLMAO! Sadly this is the only thing that seems to get through to these type of people. But that is funny!
by Melody
Mon Dec 09, 2019 10:47 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Fed Up
Replies: 2
Views: 79

Re: Fed Up

What Why Oh Why said. And really, after 13 years of being treated the way you have, why would you? I would repeat that to DH ad nauseam. Make it clear that this was MIL's decision, not yours. And now its too late. I've called DH's stepmonster (the MIL I vent about) a baby hater. Maybe your MIL is to...
by Melody
Sun Dec 08, 2019 2:10 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Christmas Gifts
Replies: 4
Views: 145

Re: Christmas Gifts

DH and you have been through quite the whirlwind and have demonstrated that truth IS stranger than fiction! Of course you are wary of being taken advantage of. On the other hand, when you generously hosted 10 guest for an entire summer you are all still miraculously on good terms. That is amazing! T...
by Melody
Tue Dec 03, 2019 8:29 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Guilt Trip
Replies: 9
Views: 283

Re: Guilt Trip

Oh yes, the guilt trips. If only they extended 1/10th the amount of energy attempting to be decent or thinking of anyone other than themselves. DH's stepmonster had relatives and even a friend (who could believe she had one) who were "dying with no hope of recovery" going for YEARS AND YEARS as an e...
by Melody
Tue Dec 03, 2019 8:20 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Hoping DH doesn't fall for the lovebombing - AGAIN
Replies: 8
Views: 300

Re: Hoping DH doesn't fall for the lovebombing - AGAIN

Exactly! And sometimes a lot more than all day. All that anxiety - I can't imagine they don't plan it - and managing to be the center of attention (because they've trained DH and the siblings) when they don't even bother to show up.
by Melody
Sun Dec 01, 2019 12:07 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Hoping DH doesn't fall for the lovebombing - AGAIN
Replies: 8
Views: 300

Re: Hoping DH doesn't fall for the lovebombing - AGAIN

Update - WTTBT - you basically nailed it. I did take all the suggestions - thank you! - but I also didn't take it so far as to remind DH about the chosen one's birthday coming up this week (so he doesn't waste tons of money on her- puke, and maybe finally sees the manipulation for what it is). So la...
by Melody
Sat Nov 23, 2019 11:49 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: MIL in Hospital & The Dog
Replies: 8
Views: 204

Re: MIL in Hospital & The Dog

Also agree to call animal control and hopefully he goes someplace where he gets adopted by a family who actually cares. @PutMILinHerPlace - totally understandable what you did, and I'm sorry it took DH so long to clue in. That was totally a manipulation move and your late MIL probably spent more tim...
by Melody
Fri Nov 22, 2019 11:09 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Hoping DH doesn't fall for the lovebombing - AGAIN
Replies: 8
Views: 300

Re: Hoping DH doesn't fall for the lovebombing - AGAIN

@Keeper - thank you! To be honest, I fortunately/unfortunately haven't been around stepmonster's personality "type" much so it really took me by surprise. So I'll really have to think about some good examples. DH is pretty quick to pick up comparisons - and especially if I can get some humor in it. ...
by Melody
Tue Nov 19, 2019 9:45 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Hello
Replies: 3
Views: 123

Re: Hello

Hi Cindy and Welcome! FYI, I think you wanted to post under the "Getting to Know You" topic. This is a great group, but my condolences that you had to join this club! I look forward to your posts and your somewhat unique perspective as both a DIL and MIL (FYI I'm an older mom of two middle school ki...
by Melody
Mon Nov 18, 2019 10:08 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Hoping DH doesn't fall for the lovebombing - AGAIN
Replies: 8
Views: 300

Hoping DH doesn't fall for the lovebombing - AGAIN

I haven't seen stepmonster since March at a party. (I ignored her). DH has only seen her once and FIL once (separately even though for some forsaken reason they are still together). MIL has been "so sick" and was actually in rehab for a few months. Granted NOT the drug and mental one she should have...
by Melody
Thu Nov 14, 2019 9:01 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Hi
Replies: 5
Views: 547

Re: Daughter update Dodged a bullet?

Hmm the format changed and I haven't had coffee yet. Just wanted to add that her career which she's been working diligently towards would have been stiffled without any good reason - leaving her even more vulerable to a control freak.
by Melody
Thu Nov 14, 2019 8:58 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Hi
Replies: 5
Views: 547

Re: Daughter update Dodged a bullet?

Sorry she's going through this at the moment, but it sounds like (and from all your other posts) she is SO much better in the long run! She DID dodge a bullet and being stuck in a one-sided controlling marriage with an awful MIL! She's young (possibly too young to get married - but I live in an area...
by Melody
Tue Nov 12, 2019 4:26 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: New here
Replies: 4
Views: 245

Re: New here

Welcome Not_a-minion! It sounds like things are going the right way. Is you DH (and any siblings) perfect? No? Well, just maybe your IL's didn't do everything the right way! <Insert GASP! here> They had their chance! You and DH need to discuss this as in what to do when MIL starts in with the pushin...