Search found 1637 matches

by Melody
Mon Jan 20, 2020 12:24 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Happy New Year
Replies: 4
Views: 76

Re: Happy New Year

Happy New Year to you too Can'tStandMyInLaws! For whatever its worth, I understand what you're saying. My knee jerk response to "when are you bringing the grandchildren by" would have been, "The next time I have jury duty AND you happen to be standing outside" - which could very well be a lot more t...
by Melody
Fri Jan 03, 2020 9:41 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Another generation is born into the toxic ILs
Replies: 7
Views: 381

Re: Another generation is born into the toxic ILs

What more is there to say? Ruby did nail it. I'm not religious but I wish blessings on that poor baby.

And WTTBT - do something nice and relaxing for yourself. You've seen way to much sh*t flying!
by Melody
Fri Jan 03, 2020 9:37 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: I’m sensing a pattern here
Replies: 12
Views: 709

Re: I’m sensing a pattern here

This appears to be MIL's very sad version of "love bombing". Your MIL is a probably a narc and is attempting to show you both how much she cares about you so you'll fall in line to make her family look good to anyone SHE actually cares about. In reality the love bombing is more like a damp fizzily l...
by Melody
Sat Dec 28, 2019 2:27 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Oh The Games MIL plays...
Replies: 7
Views: 374

Re: Oh The Games MIL plays...

I tried to post a reply the other day but it deleted. I couldn't empathize or agree more with you and wish SIL (and DH) would listen to you! Ugh! The drama IS the ONLY goal for evil MIL's!!! Things were quiet before December (which also happens to be the chosen one's birthday month) because she has ...
by Melody
Tue Dec 24, 2019 2:52 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Falling In Line vs Not
Replies: 7
Views: 361

Re: Falling In Line vs Not

Interesting question! I used to ask DH's brother's wife (SIL) why DH and BIL are so loyal to stepmonster when she's SUCH a horror show. SIL (who DH refers to as "a stepford wife") sincerely answered me, "I DON'T KNOW! I don't get it either!". For years stepmonster triangulated -"You HAFTA come THIS ...
by Melody
Fri Dec 20, 2019 10:56 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Update: Eddie Munster
Replies: 5
Views: 355

Re: Update: Eddie Munster

Great Ruby! Thank you for a hopeful update. Some children do manage to flourish from the start of manure and his future sounds so much better than what it could have been. I'm not sure if aunt letting CBIL about privacy settings would be such a good idea. Of course he is a scumbag, but the "greyrock...
by Melody
Sat Dec 14, 2019 10:11 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Told you so!
Replies: 2
Views: 276

Re: Told you so!

Thank you Keeper! I actually hadn't thought of it that way, lol. When DH tells me he doesn't want "to get me (you) going", I'm thinking more "set me off" I took it to mean more of a "I know you think my mother is evil, but....." type of thing where he tries to justify her crappy behavior. (And "moth...
by Melody
Thu Dec 12, 2019 10:26 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Told you so!
Replies: 2
Views: 276

Told you so!

So the other weekend we went to nephew's "coffee and cake" thing at DH's brother and SIL's house. This is something that lasts for under 2 1/2 hours. DH and I arrive 20 minutes late to the bore fest and, FIL and stepmonster told BIL and SIL that they were coming. Ten minutes later BIL calls and they...
by Melody
Mon Dec 09, 2019 10:50 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Guilt Trip
Replies: 10
Views: 617

Re: Guilt Trip

@WhyOhWhy - just enough of a of sh*t stir to change the balance of things.

I never used to think this way, but now I'm ROFLMAO! Sadly this is the only thing that seems to get through to these type of people. But that is funny!
by Melody
Mon Dec 09, 2019 10:47 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Fed Up
Replies: 2
Views: 189

Re: Fed Up

What Why Oh Why said. And really, after 13 years of being treated the way you have, why would you? I would repeat that to DH ad nauseam. Make it clear that this was MIL's decision, not yours. And now its too late. I've called DH's stepmonster (the MIL I vent about) a baby hater. Maybe your MIL is to...
by Melody
Sun Dec 08, 2019 2:10 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Christmas Gifts
Replies: 7
Views: 537

Re: Christmas Gifts

DH and you have been through quite the whirlwind and have demonstrated that truth IS stranger than fiction! Of course you are wary of being taken advantage of. On the other hand, when you generously hosted 10 guest for an entire summer you are all still miraculously on good terms. That is amazing! T...
by Melody
Tue Dec 03, 2019 8:29 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Guilt Trip
Replies: 10
Views: 617

Re: Guilt Trip

Oh yes, the guilt trips. If only they extended 1/10th the amount of energy attempting to be decent or thinking of anyone other than themselves. DH's stepmonster had relatives and even a friend (who could believe she had one) who were "dying with no hope of recovery" going for YEARS AND YEARS as an e...
by Melody
Tue Dec 03, 2019 8:20 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Hoping DH doesn't fall for the lovebombing - AGAIN
Replies: 8
Views: 542

Re: Hoping DH doesn't fall for the lovebombing - AGAIN

Exactly! And sometimes a lot more than all day. All that anxiety - I can't imagine they don't plan it - and managing to be the center of attention (because they've trained DH and the siblings) when they don't even bother to show up.
by Melody
Sun Dec 01, 2019 12:07 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Hoping DH doesn't fall for the lovebombing - AGAIN
Replies: 8
Views: 542

Re: Hoping DH doesn't fall for the lovebombing - AGAIN

Update - WTTBT - you basically nailed it. I did take all the suggestions - thank you! - but I also didn't take it so far as to remind DH about the chosen one's birthday coming up this week (so he doesn't waste tons of money on her- puke, and maybe finally sees the manipulation for what it is). So la...
by Melody
Sat Nov 23, 2019 11:49 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: MIL in Hospital & The Dog
Replies: 8
Views: 377

Re: MIL in Hospital & The Dog

Also agree to call animal control and hopefully he goes someplace where he gets adopted by a family who actually cares. @PutMILinHerPlace - totally understandable what you did, and I'm sorry it took DH so long to clue in. That was totally a manipulation move and your late MIL probably spent more tim...