Thank you Miwako, you get it!

At this point I'm sure I will never get an apology for any or all of the crap stepmonster has pulled over the past 20+ years. But I feel like now there's no chance of closure because DH basically told her "it's OK because we all love you anyway!". Um, nope.

Thank you WhyOhWhy. I needed to hear that. Recently we've had a number of good friends and relatives pass which has really sucked. Even DH's brother commented, "Why is she the one still around?" But eventually her stubbornness won't be enough to make up for all her consistently bad choices. DH is a ...

Oh no Brer Fox! Please don't throw me in the Briar Patch!

Enjoy your rejuvenating weekend! And do post what you did versus DH's weekend went.

DH's stepmonster is once again in the hospital. Not exactly a surprise because she was allegedly dying two years ago and since then she's done absolutely nothing to try to improve her health. Supposedly she fell (I say supposedly because DH even volunteered its intentional to score more opioids. Now...

I agree with what WhyOhWhy said. Instead of responding appropriately (or even timely) he kind of threw you under the bus. Have you suggested to DH to go for counseling? It sounds like he needs it. He can't change his family, but he can change how he reacts to their behavior, and right now its effect...

Interesting.

Was it specifically addressed to the kids? If it wasn't maybe it was an attempt to make DH feel guilty or for him to see what he's supposedly missing.

On the up side, it looks like someone managed to gain some package sending skills, lol. Way too little, too late.

What a clever title! How wonderful and as a bonus it sounds like you may have gained an ally or at least people who get it/not flying monkeys! I've written before about this. My OB/GYN once asked how my holidays were. I said I had to have my gallbladder removed. But before she or her nurse could say...

Similar to what WhyOhWhy already said, I would absolutely ask DH what he did after dropping off DS at work. And I would absolutely not tolerate any lying. And what's the deal with being mysterious? Is BIL in some kind of trouble (I don't know, finances/drugs/addition) and wants help from DH but is e...

Thank you WhyOhWhy. Whenever she's been called out on anything, she's always dug her heals in further. For example safety issues when the kids were young. She wanted to bring out a walker she bought at a flea market. When we told her "no" she brought it out anyway THEN proceeded to go into the basem...

So I was surprised and amused by the course of events this weekend. Actually a little shocked. A little backstory - DH had been adopted, his parents split and remarried. DH was LC with his mother (who passed a few years ago) so the one I am always venting about was FIL's second wife, stepmonster. We...

"want [me] to be comfortable spending time with them at family gatherings". Sure. And did they add, "we just want things to be back to the way they were!" and "We are who we are!"? Next time DH suggests buying them a gift for any occasion, may I suggest: https://www.boscovs.com/product/bissell-sturd...

Not the Ahole. But grandma is only marginally. It sound like it may not have been a deliberate snub but she was out of her comfort zone. On one hand, if she was truly looking out for her grandchilds interests and her daughter really had a "thing" going on, she should have asked you if it wasn't too ...

WhyOhWhy your comment makes me think this would be a good stand alone topic. Slightly different, but I've noticed stepmonster can't contain herself and took glee anytime she thought she found someone's weakness. DH would deny it but I learned to always talk up her target and invalidate when she star...

Hello Miwako! Its been a while! Interesting thought and makes sense. They regret being caught and called out on it and having to face consequences thinking everyone can just "move on" with no change from them. Whyohwhy - it is sad. And I resent the amount of time and energy wasted not just putting a...

Before you even got to the second paragraph I was already thinking of the word insanity - but not the way you used it. The old saying is about the definition of insanity. NOTHING has changed about the relationship or lack thereof between you, DH and FIL. He never apologized and he may never. Actuall...