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by Myheartweeps
Sat Apr 04, 2020 4:14 pm
Forum: Non-In-Laws Talk
Topic: My dad. A sad story.
Replies: 1
Views: 4485

My dad. A sad story.

My dad and I have a difficult relationship. I suspect he has ASS related problems but he also has a difficult character. Always very negative, he is always sarcastic. He is not interested in my life or in my siblings life and work. He lacks social skills and he is not capable of relating to someone ...
by Myheartweeps
Tue Oct 22, 2019 2:20 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: How long has it been?
Replies: 15
Views: 9679

Re: How long has it been?

Melody, thank you for opening this topic. I am NC with my PIL for four years now. I do not know what to say. It is not easy but also not particularly hard. DH is still in contact but on a very low level. I still have contact with BIL and SIL. They are still being controlled by FIL and MIL. Very unhe...
by Myheartweeps
Sat Jul 01, 2017 7:59 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Controlling PILs?
Replies: 10
Views: 5649

Re: Controlling PILs?

Hi Mara, I agree with PutMILinherplace: your DH has mental issues, but is also an abused child. My DH has also mental issues and his parents took him in when he was ill. But, to me, these are two separate things. Because my BIL and SIL, who do not have these issues, also use their parents house as "...
by Myheartweeps
Sat Jul 01, 2017 7:24 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: They want to make up, I don’t
Replies: 18
Views: 9969

Re: They want to make up, I don’t

My husband tells me that they're all terrified of upsetting me now, and that's why they don't talk to me at all. This, exactly this. I heard this too from my ILs. This is so unproductive, from your IL but also from your DH who passes the message. It is playing the victim, and your DH joins them. Yo...
by Myheartweeps
Sat Jul 01, 2017 6:59 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: NC still going strong
Replies: 0
Views: 10049

NC still going strong

Hi everybody, I am back here every now and then to keep you posted on the NC and to react on other peoples posts. In short, I went NC in the fall of 2015. Ans it is going strong ever since. This means I do not see or speak to my PIL though I do have contact with my BIL and my SIL. Some serious DH-ba...
by Myheartweeps
Sat Jul 01, 2017 6:41 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Etiquette guru advice: stand with your wife
Replies: 0
Views: 9971

Etiquette guru advice: stand with your wife

Hi everybody, In my European country we have somebody giving people advice similar to Miss Manners / Dear Abby. Today she published a letter of a DuH (!) So I wanted you to all read it, because I think it is insightful. The original is in my own language so I made a translation. The Duh says: "Dear ...
by Myheartweeps
Wed Dec 28, 2016 2:01 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Update
Replies: 5
Views: 3391

Update

Hi everybody, Just dropping by to wish everybody a good and as inlaw-free as possible 2017! I would like to give an update about my circumstances. About a year ago I went NC with my PIL. Since then, I did not see them of speak to them at all. They are not welcome in our house any more. DH is still i...
by Myheartweeps
Tue Mar 08, 2016 3:48 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: PIL go by the book!
Replies: 12
Views: 6750

Re: PIL go by the book!

The whole point of giving a gift is to try to suck me back in their dysfunctional family. I am not afraid of them saying I am ungrateful. They can say whatever they want. It is like PutMILinherplace says: they say things about me anyway, no matter what I do. I have to add, that they never talked to ...
by Myheartweeps
Mon Mar 07, 2016 4:23 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Why do our DH/DW/SO still want contact with them?
Replies: 15
Views: 8539

Re: Why do our DH/DW/SO still want contact with them?

...because he STILL wants to make them happy!!!
by Myheartweeps
Mon Mar 07, 2016 4:15 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Something you can never forgive
Replies: 27
Views: 13637

Re: Something you can never forgive

OMG I told it before here, but one thing I will never forgive them is that they wanted to charge my parents when I moved in with DH. It was their house and DH and I would share the rent... but for my PIL it was not enough so they wanted to charge my parents... behind my back.

Unbelievable.
by Myheartweeps
Mon Mar 07, 2016 4:10 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: PIL go by the book!
Replies: 12
Views: 6750

PIL go by the book!

Five months ago I decided to go NC with my narcistic PILs. Thanks to this forum I heard about NPD and a lot of things fell into place. I also knew the problems with them like the silence treatment, the tantrums and the lying would never end. Now I feel so calm. I do not have to be anxious all the ti...
by Myheartweeps
Mon Dec 14, 2015 3:42 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: IL's behaving like NC is a Divorce with Child Visitation
Replies: 14
Views: 9398

Re: IL's behaving like NC is a Divorce with Child Visitation

My goodness, this could be my MIL and FIL. We do not have children, but they would never understand that NC is also NC with two-year-old children. Your PIL think they are entitled to see your daughter, and are even stupid enough to suggest they can come and get her with Christmas. Of course this is ...
by Myheartweeps
Mon Dec 14, 2015 3:27 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Will you see your in-laws at Christmas?
Replies: 24
Views: 13287

Re: Will you see your in-laws at Christmas?

For the first time in almost ten years, I will NOT see my ILs at Christmas.

I went NC forever !!!

I wish everybody a very merry and if possible INLAWfree Christmas!!!
by Myheartweeps
Tue Dec 08, 2015 4:17 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Crazy things that the ILs have asked for
Replies: 17
Views: 10936

Re: Crazy things that the ILs have asked for

My MIL asked me what my parents thought about my ex. Because he was almost twice my age. ??? I did not give her an answer. She has asked what my (wealthy) FOO would buy if they spent all their money. I actually answered that one. Told her maybe a house or a yacht? Later I asked myself: what kind of ...
by Myheartweeps
Mon Dec 07, 2015 8:35 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Don't know what to do
Replies: 13
Views: 7085

Re: Don't know what to do

Hi Prism, I read all the answers to your question and I really think you are right and you need a break from this woman. You say that that way I can make her feel like things are "OK" and like we've moved on and then I can move on and push away from her Here is the part I do not understand: why does...