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by Mara
Fri Apr 03, 2020 1:51 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Update on the delusional, evil in-laws
Replies: 6
Views: 2626

Re: Update on the delusional, evil in-laws

[quote=Mara post_id=109246 time=<a href="tel:1582525109">1582525109</a> user_id=5936] This past weekend, the supervisor ended EH’s visit with the kids early, due to EH not following the facility rules and becoming argumentative and angry with the supervisor. My oldest (9 yrs) was angry, blaming it ...
by Mara
Mon Feb 24, 2020 2:18 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Update on the delusional, evil in-laws
Replies: 6
Views: 2626

Re: Update on the delusional, evil in-laws

Thank you all for the replies. It means a lot to receive validation, support, understanding, and confirmation of the truth of the situation. I don’t think any one in my real life has experienced anything close to this, so it becomes lonely and isolating. KeeperofPrecious - I honestly think the text ...
by Mara
Sat Feb 15, 2020 9:11 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Update on the delusional, evil in-laws
Replies: 6
Views: 2626

Update on the delusional, evil in-laws

Haven’t shared in a while. It’s going on a year and still going through divorce with EH (estranged husband). Can’t wait for his odious family to be my EX-in-laws, even though we’ll unfortunately continue to be connected through the children. This divorce has been very emotionally difficult and stres...
by Mara
Tue Oct 22, 2019 1:52 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: My EFIL liquidated my kids' college funds!
Replies: 2
Views: 621

My EFIL liquidated my kids' college funds!

I can't recall which details I've shared on here, but just wanted to post a quick update to let you all know that I learned for certain that my EFIL liquidated my kids' education funds. EH (estranged husband) had ownership of them and all our family members had contributed to them (significant amoun...
by Mara
Mon Oct 07, 2019 9:45 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Hello. i’m Frustrated.
Replies: 5
Views: 937

Re: Hello. i’m Frustrated.

Congratulations on your pregnancy and I pray you can make the most of this opportunity to relax before baby comes. The health of your baby is your biggest priority right now, please do not worry about what’s going on with the ILs. I know it is hurtful, but as others have said, this is probably a goo...
by Mara
Fri Aug 16, 2019 8:06 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Curious if anyone has some insight
Replies: 8
Views: 1556

Re: Curious if anyone has some insight

Melody - I don’t feel especially knowledgeable about any of this toxic relationship stuff, but Maybe DH doesn’t especially want to spend time with either FIL or stepmonster. Maybe he only visited her in rehab out of a sense of guilt or obligation? I think it also could be a sort of Stockholm syndrom...
by Mara
Fri Aug 16, 2019 7:51 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Evil PILs (what’s new?)
Replies: 7
Views: 1307

Re: Evil PILs (what’s new?)

So was there any progress made at mediation? So glad you were able to hold it together. Hopefully this will be but a memory soon for you. Well all we accomplished our first session (of a possible three) was go through our background/ how did we get here. It wouldn’t have taken so long if EH didn’t ...
by Mara
Thu Aug 08, 2019 10:21 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: To The PILs, everything is about money
Replies: 12
Views: 2137

Re: To The PILs, everything is about money

Mara, if you keep YOUR cool, the judge will see that. They will see the other side acting all nutty. They WANT to goad you into a high-intensity anger response. That will make YOU seem unstable. Absolutely do NOT respond next time they say something, no matter WHAT sort of BS it is. Stay cool, calm...
by Mara
Mon Aug 05, 2019 9:17 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Evil PILs (what’s new?)
Replies: 7
Views: 1307

Re: Evil PILs (what’s new?)

Thank you all for the encouragement and support. Had the first mediation session with EH today. No sign of the PILs thankfully. I made my concerns known to this new mediator and she said the only ones allowed in her building were me and EH or the mediation would be cancelled. EH couldn’t restrain hi...
by Mara
Mon Jul 29, 2019 5:41 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: To The PILs, everything is about money
Replies: 12
Views: 2137

Re: To The PILs, everything is about money

Queenof3 - If you don’t mind answering, what state do you work in? We’re in Illinois and it seems extremely difficult to get someone help against their will. I know the whole “if they are an imminent threat to the safety of themselves or others” thing, but it seems like the threshold for meeting tha...
by Mara
Mon Jul 29, 2019 5:09 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Evil PILs (what’s new?)
Replies: 7
Views: 1307

Evil PILs (what’s new?)

Just spoke to my divorce lawyer on the phone. EH (estranged husband) has a new lawyer. My lawyer knows this person and said they are EXTREMELY expensive. She said EH should be sharing funds with me since he has so much money to pay a lawyer. Well this lawyer took $1,000 (which my lawyer said they wo...
by Mara
Mon Jul 22, 2019 6:00 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Contemplating Blocking all IL’s on social media
Replies: 4
Views: 834

Contemplating Blocking all IL’s on social media

I’ve been NC with all IL’s for nearly 3 years now. It began with the PILs, who are completely evil. There are some decent aunts and cousins, but MIL was desperate to send messages to me anyway she could and started to use them. Their relationship wasn’t worth that, so I went NC with them too. I’m no...
by Mara
Mon Jul 22, 2019 5:47 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: To The PILs, everything is about money
Replies: 12
Views: 2137

Re: To The PILs, everything is about money

Awwe, I give *Hugs* to you, too. I agree with Melody. Get those copies in to your lawyer. Also, copies of EH saying he won’t pay a cent. As for MIL’s gifts. Those were gifts. You don’t have to pay her back for anything she ever got you. Thank you. Yes, I need to take the time to compile all this in...
by Mara
Fri Jul 12, 2019 10:41 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: To The PILs, everything is about money
Replies: 12
Views: 2137

To The PILs, everything is about money

It’s been about 3 years since I went NC with my vile PILs. They have done everything to try and continue their abuse. They tried using my parents, tried using various other ILs to give me messages for them until I had to go NC with all the ILs, and especially continue using EH (estranged husband) to...
by Mara
Fri Jul 12, 2019 10:05 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Advice for responding to toxic people?
Replies: 6
Views: 1447

Re: Advice for responding to toxic people?

Melody - I have been seeing a counselor, which has been a huge help since I don’t have much of a support system. I want to compile a document of the periods of time EH visited the kids and the times he was a no show or cancelled at the last minute. I’ve tried to document everything, but it hasn’t al...