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by rubycrownedkinglet
Tue Oct 22, 2019 10:38 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: More updates on Felony-Niece
Replies: 7
Views: 536

Re: More updates on Felony-Niece

In a way, I wish that MIL was still around to see it all. So funny, that's exactly what I was going to reply, that your MIL would deserve to see how low FN can go. Then I realized that if your MIL was anything like my MIL, her golden one could do no wrong. My MIL made so many excuses for my ESIL th...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Wed Oct 16, 2019 2:37 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: DH has learned who his mother is
Replies: 5
Views: 534

Re: DH has learned who his mother is

Won't MIL just give up already? I'm sorry she popped up again, because it seems that it revives the old bitterness that starts to fade over time. I'm so happy that your DH gets it and isn't fooled by her fake concern. After six years I wonder why she would do that. It may be that she really wants th...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Sun Oct 13, 2019 1:59 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Time To Chat About Holiday Plans
Replies: 20
Views: 1378

Re: Time To Chat About Holiday Plans

ILs are such a pain in the ass around the holidays! We stopped holidays with them all close to ten years before the PILs died. It was a sh!t show every single time. It was such an ordeal that we would try to plan our once-per-year trip to visit around NOT a holiday. We finally arrived at an annual w...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Tue Oct 08, 2019 11:03 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Resentment towards DH and FIL
Replies: 4
Views: 392

Re: Resentment towards DH and FIL

Did this woman from the internet steal from him or was the money not there to begin with? That is very concerning if he got scammed once it can happen again. Do not give in on the loan for a headstone. Your DH is doing the being in denial, going on, letting FIL do whatever because his wife just died...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Mon Oct 07, 2019 10:47 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Hello. i’m Frustrated.
Replies: 5
Views: 501

Re: Hello. i’m Frustrated.

I'm agreed that you are so much better off without the ILs hovering over you at this wonderful but trying time. I would suggest to keep you occupied you take a look at the search feature of this board. You can type in a word like redneck or asshole or insane and see a bunch of threads that use that ...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Thu Oct 03, 2019 9:43 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: OMG! Why did I spy again!?
Replies: 5
Views: 483

Re: OMG! Why did I spy again!?

MadCatLady wrote:you walk away with your head held high, but it's hard to resist that backward glance.
I'm feeling pretty salty today! :lol:
by rubycrownedkinglet
Wed Oct 02, 2019 2:33 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: OMG! Why did I spy again!?
Replies: 5
Views: 483

OMG! Why did I spy again!?

You know how if feels really good to be vindicated and validated about someone or something, that schadenfreude type of satisfaction? I feel that. However, it is just so sad. The last post about FB got me wondering about CBIL and his many (20+) FB pages. I decided to check in. Bad mistake. As I fear...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Wed Oct 02, 2019 10:27 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: How do you get a photo removed from facebook?
Replies: 12
Views: 683

Re: How do you get a photo removed from facebook?

Jeez, I've made no mystery how I feel about Facebook. DH experimented by having an account 2 different times and ended up completely withdrawing in disgust after a few months. In the earliest days of FB, a dear friend decided it would be OK to set up simple accounts for us so that he could tag us in...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Fri Sep 27, 2019 4:06 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Advice Please...
Replies: 3
Views: 428

Re: Advice Please...

Does your DH know why FIL has dropped contact with you both? Did he read the text and stand by it? I ask because if he knows, and if FIL has chosen to drop the rope with you both, you are in the enviable position of being on the receiving end of a cut off that you could not have orchestrated any bet...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Fri Sep 20, 2019 3:21 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: So Happy I'm Missing This S***show
Replies: 13
Views: 1229

Re: So Happy I'm Missing This S***show

I wonder if your SIL expects him to be on his best behavior in front of everyone else. I wonder if she expects he will be unhappy about it. I think she'll get a couple snide remarks and some P/A guilt trips. "SO! You're just going to leave an old man all alone?" The show was going to be awful anyway...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Sun Sep 08, 2019 10:34 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: How long has it been?
Replies: 15
Views: 1277

Re: How long has it been?

Good topic. It's great to catch up on everyone's status. I also noticed how quiet we've been lately and came to the same conclusion that so many of us are heeding the warnings and taking the advice from others to avoid the company of the toxic ILs. If we have to deal with the disappointment of our S...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Wed Sep 04, 2019 10:08 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Funeral Dilemma
Replies: 11
Views: 875

Re: Funeral Dilemma

Oh Atarigirl, I know how you feel. The biggest difference is that I wasn't cutoff from my MIL and FIL at the time of their deaths. They weren't actually too bad. I regret attending their funerals only because they were big time shit shows. These were the highlights that I can't un-see or forget: Dra...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Sat Aug 24, 2019 3:58 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: FIL's birthday manipulations
Replies: 4
Views: 649

Re: FIL's birthday manipulations

Oh the nightmare of any EVIL IL living so long!! Whether it's 90-something or 100, OMG, NO. I'm glad that your DH at least seems to be wary of him and his manipulations. Back in the days a few years ago he wouldn't have admitted he needed your moral support and would have chastised you for insinuati...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Fri Aug 02, 2019 1:49 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Update: I'm mildly surprised they hate me this much
Replies: 13
Views: 1189

Re: Update: I'm mildly surprised they hate me this much

The only downside for you in this whole thing is that your DH is very upset. He is upset because he-and he alone-decided that if you don't go to the reunion, he won't go. His choice. I'm pretty sure you wouldn't mind him going. He may realize that you are getting exactly what you want which is to st...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Sat Jul 27, 2019 5:51 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Curious if anyone has some insight
Replies: 8
Views: 977

Re: Curious if anyone has some insight

I hope you’re right Melody. I remember seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. Don’t get wrapped up in how they are reaching out because you can’t control that. You can control your reaction and your expressions of sympathy for your DH about how they are. My only advice at this point is to stick ...