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by rubycrownedkinglet
Thu Apr 25, 2019 9:23 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Hello again!
Replies: 11
Views: 1124

Re: Hello again!

Hi, Justplainhateher. I'm glad things are going well for you and your family in the post-IL phase. Thanks for checking in to remind everyone there is hope and to hang in there. Kudos to your FIL for investing and holding. I can't help thinking that it's too bad that your MIL wouldn't have spread som...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Tue Apr 23, 2019 9:12 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Stepmonster the Vulture
Replies: 5
Views: 575

Re: Stepmonster the Vulture

Make sure you turn it around to her behavior EVERY TIME! Great advice. My most used replies to DH about ESIL's many complaints were: She is bringing it upon herself. What goes around, comes around. You reap what you sow and she's been sowing for a long time. How else would you expect people to reac...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Sun Apr 21, 2019 8:30 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: My MIL “The Punisher” lol
Replies: 6
Views: 808

Re: My MIL “The Punisher” lol

Jeez, that woman is some piece of work! It's so much better that you stepped back and let your DH deal with her directly and exclusively. Otherwise he would never allow himself to believe that you aren't somehow exacerbating her crazy, or misinterpreting it and then relaying it. He has to hear it fi...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Thu Apr 18, 2019 3:58 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Who else is having an in-law (or toxic in law) free Easter?
Replies: 14
Views: 1443

Re: Who else is having an in-law (or toxic in law) free East

OOOOH some wicked punishment. At this rate I'd hope she thinks my DH is 'bad' all the time. When are the toxic ILs ever going to get a clue?

Actually, I hope your MIL remains clueless, steaming and silent. :twisted:
by rubycrownedkinglet
Tue Apr 09, 2019 2:13 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: CluelessBIL still a criminal
Replies: 12
Views: 1224

Re: CluelessBIL still a criminal

Thanks Melody, it was shocking to me too that he didn't just answer the questioners on Facebook that she had a heart attack. He only posted the article by Dr Oz about people dying on the toilet for a few days before he shut her page down and started a new one of his own. I'll bet someone else called...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Tue Apr 09, 2019 9:19 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: CluelessBIL still a criminal
Replies: 12
Views: 1224

CluelessBIL still a criminal

I just googled CluelessBILs name for the first time in 6-12 months. I was shocked at what I found! Background (skip ahead if you know the story) : The late ESILs husband CBIL is to my knowledge, the only one who is living in ESILs old house. This is the house that the late PILs sunk every dollar of ...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:00 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: To the Poster of "Naughty Bride Episode One"
Replies: 3
Views: 563

Re: To the Poster of "Naughty Bride Episode One"

I think there are many reasons that one's love for the potential husband or wife can outweigh the bad fit of their family. Although it sounds like Naughty Bride knew what she was getting into, I'm not shocked that she said "yes" anyway. I knew my ILs were backwards, slow and easily agitated. Their m...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Thu Mar 28, 2019 4:36 pm
Forum: Non-In-Laws Talk
Topic: Caring for aging relatives?
Replies: 6
Views: 884

Re: Caring for aging relatives?

If there are any young adults in the family that are finishing their education and or still living at home in a basement somewhere, maybe a co-living arrangement could work out. It depends upon the personalities involved. Your DGU is on the verge of having to be put into a hospital then a nursing ho...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Thu Mar 28, 2019 3:58 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Do I send a mother's day card and bouquet for my BH
Replies: 10
Views: 1073

Re: Do I send a mother's day card and bouquet for my BH

Just because you stand up for yourself it doesn't mean you're walking all over anyone else. Even if you feel like you are because of years of habit. The first time I broke with tradition and did absolutely nothing for my ILs, I was all torn up about it-until it was over. Then I was relieved and I re...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Thu Mar 28, 2019 9:29 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: My Daughter’s MIL
Replies: 11
Views: 1562

Re: My Daughter’s MIL

Tough love alert: One thing we love about our site is that we sometimes just call it like we see it. Sorry in advance if I offend. [MIL] just wasn’t emotionally up to hosting a big party this year But I am waiting for the right moment to discuss this with my daughter. I know she is very sensitive to...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Tue Mar 26, 2019 9:16 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: What to do with family photos of the evil ILs?
Replies: 11
Views: 958

Re: What to do with family photos of the evil ILs?

Wow Mara, I could have written your post a few years ago. Most of our pix were hard copies at the time. Fortunately, I took advantage of the time in 2012 when DH was so furious with all the ILs and he asked me to trash the IL pics. He wanted to keep some with the PILs in them but I scanned and digit...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Wed Mar 20, 2019 10:41 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: FIL ignoring DH, am I the scapegoat?
Replies: 6
Views: 703

Re: FIL ignoring DH, am I the scapegoat?

I would talk to your DH about it because this is one of those things where, over time, his memory of what happened becomes what happened. In the future, it will be held against you. If it were the ILs doing it, I'd say "so be it" or "own it," because if your influence over your DH has helped him sta...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Fri Mar 15, 2019 1:52 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Advice
Replies: 5
Views: 785

Re: Advice

Definitely not an accident, your ILs are treating you to their passive aggressive manipulation. I saw my own ILs, who were very unsophisticated, pull off very similar schemes. Making you late for a party or holiday dinner by telling you the wrong time? Been there! Saying they would pay for our rehea...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Tue Mar 12, 2019 5:09 pm
Forum: Non-In-Laws Talk
Topic: Odd Neighbor Advice
Replies: 9
Views: 1048

Re: Odd Neighbor Advice

Weird for sure. It is very frustrating that you can't even enjoy your own yard with your own family. While I would say to talk to the parents if they were ok but their kid was just pushy, you're right to avoid getting them po'ed. With people like that, you never know how they will react and how they...
by rubycrownedkinglet
Fri Mar 08, 2019 2:43 pm
Forum: Non-In-Laws Talk
Topic: Using emergencies to try and worm their way back in.
Replies: 1
Views: 422

Re: Using emergencies to try and worm their way back in.

Foxmanb, I'm so sorry about your DGA. In some family groups, be they FOO or ILs, there are too few good ones and it seems she was one. I understand why those who are cut off think that a family emergency might trump all former cutoffs, but the lengths that they will go to make anything qualify as an...