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by Melody
Sat Aug 17, 2019 5:32 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Curious if anyone has some insight
Replies: 8
Views: 978

Re: Curious if anyone has some insight

Thank you Mara. My DH does feel obligated that's for sure. And its always a one way street. Sigh. DH describes stepmonster as FIL's one night stand who didn't know it was time to leave, lol. Yep, a succubus. The cartoon South Park had an entire episode about the beloved character Chef falling for on...
by Melody
Thu Aug 15, 2019 8:02 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Finally! A visit I can enjoy!
Replies: 4
Views: 582

Re: Finally! A visit I can enjoy!

Thank you Keeper! As a DIL of a Kraken yourself you definitely get it. Unfortunately I think she'be being released soon, but DH just "visited". Once he's done that he does tend to go out of sight/out of mind. So hopefully there won't be too many theatrics (calls with "emergencies" or P/A love bombin...
by Melody
Tue Aug 13, 2019 8:33 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Finally! A visit I can enjoy!
Replies: 4
Views: 582

Re: Finally! A visit I can enjoy!

Ha! More than they've ever helped us - take that tit for tat! DH was miserably bored, called me a few times, and I could hear the dog wouldn't stop barking. He finally had the cataracts surgery he was supposed to have about three years ago - already prepaid by everyone but stepmonster's money. (Negl...
by Melody
Sun Aug 11, 2019 9:34 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Finally! A visit I can enjoy!
Replies: 4
Views: 582

Finally! A visit I can enjoy!

Last I posted DH had visited stepmonster at rehab. This was not the elicit/prescription drug rehab she needs but one because she had the latest "accident" that wasn't healing. DH has even pointed out stepmonster has frequent "accidents" to score more narcotics. Prior to this it had been four months ...
by Melody
Sat Aug 10, 2019 1:50 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: DS doesn't want to see the ILs
Replies: 7
Views: 655

Re: DS doesn't want to see the ILs

"I embraced my inner b****h & enjoyed every min of it. They were calling me that so I told my MIL I was determined not to make a liar out of her." Ha! I didn't see PutMILinHerPlace's post before I posted (and note we're saying very similar things). I love this quote! DH's stepmonster is now afraid o...
by Melody
Sat Aug 10, 2019 1:37 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: DS doesn't want to see the ILs
Replies: 7
Views: 655

Re: DS doesn't want to see the ILs

I know this is hard, but do you best to not give an F about what they think. Some people are not cut out to be or want to be grandparents. On some level they probably are embarrassed when their friends brag about their grandchildren and they are more interested in their dog/sports/flower show, whate...
by Melody
Tue Aug 06, 2019 8:31 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Evil PILs (what’s new?)
Replies: 7
Views: 778

Re: Evil PILs (what’s new?)

This sounds like its going well! Its probably hard for you to see, YOU remained calm - despite the one who is juggling EVERYTHING but your EH already said some irrational things IN FRONT OF the mediator. His mommy & daddy's bad influence is already shining through. Perfect! A close friend of mine an...
by Melody
Sun Aug 04, 2019 2:29 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: MIL just can’t turn it off, DH enabler
Replies: 4
Views: 533

Re: MIL just can’t turn it off, DH enabler

First off, I panicked a little when you said you would stop gossiping about NM. I do a lot of computer work, and well, there's only so many cute cat photos we can take as a distraction! LOL! DH's stepmonster constantly put my DH down in front of him. DH's stepmonster also used to gossip and badmouth...
by Melody
Fri Aug 02, 2019 4:32 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Update: I'm mildly surprised they hate me this much
Replies: 13
Views: 1189

Re: Update: I'm mildly surprised they hate me this much

I'm seconding Ruby's "you go girl"! I'm finding in my own situation, DH stopped fighting for me to go along to his paaaaaaarents, hasn't pushed nearly as much to drag our kids along to see them (which I have a problem with) and finally decided that going to his brother and wife's "coffee and cake" c...
by Melody
Fri Aug 02, 2019 8:49 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Update: I'm mildly surprised they hate me this much
Replies: 13
Views: 1189

Re: Update: I'm mildly surprised they hate me this much

Take a deep breath and try to be happy about this - this had to move forward one way or another - it was dragging on and on. But I don't like that DH is turning this around on you. YOU'RE the one THEY are scared of and YOU are intimidating? Because you don't like being treated like crap? Your DH kno...
by Melody
Mon Jul 29, 2019 6:55 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Evil PILs (what’s new?)
Replies: 7
Views: 778

Re: Evil PILs (what’s new?)

We'll HURL! Just as a thought you might have to hire a law guardian. Half will be billed to you (I know sweet.heart - trust me!) but half to him to tell a judge he and especially his parents are a loser. As much as it sucks, DO go through with this. Sorry honey!
by Melody
Sun Jul 28, 2019 10:44 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Curious if anyone has some insight
Replies: 8
Views: 978

Re: Curious if anyone has some insight

Thank you Ruby! Your words are very kind! A few years back DH and I went for counseling and the counselor told me that I couldn't expect him to cut out "his mother figure - even if she is a piece of sh*t" (I was a little horrified by the first part and DH didn't seem to hear the second part of her s...
by Melody
Wed Jul 24, 2019 8:32 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Curious if anyone has some insight
Replies: 8
Views: 978

Re: Curious if anyone has some insight

PutMILinHerPlace - Wow, thank you! That makes a LOT of sense! DH has told me a number of horror stories about his dad. This is stuff like having beer cans thrown at him because he walked past the TV during a football game, being punched because he (DH) wouldn't throw tree trimmings into the neighbor...
by Melody
Mon Jul 22, 2019 8:24 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Curious if anyone has some insight
Replies: 8
Views: 978

Re: Curious if anyone has some insight

Thank you WilltheTruthBeTold! I had thought the "keeping the peace" was the objective for quite some time. DH, and even I for the longest time, were "expected" to buy stepmonster expensive gifts for every holiday and then some. FIl would call and yell at DH if he didn't buy "his mother" nice gifts. ...
by Melody
Sun Jul 21, 2019 3:04 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Curious if anyone has some insight
Replies: 8
Views: 978

Curious if anyone has some insight

I've written a ton about DH's stepmonster. I've felt she's been the "gatekeeper" for FIL. We couldn't see him, invite him to anything, or even talk to him without her. And then she would make every encounter miserable. My younger two children have no other grandparents (my parents are long gone) oth...