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by WhyOhWhy
Thu Dec 06, 2018 11:53 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Fakeness Is Thick
Replies: 6
Views: 1423

Fakeness Is Thick

That feeling when you run into your in-laws and they act like perfectly innocent angels because they are with their flying monkeys. Not a single untoward word is uttered and they put on a show of being the best parents a person could ever want. Makes you just want to barf but at the same time its go...
by WhyOhWhy
Wed Dec 05, 2018 6:01 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Article about Empathy & Men
Replies: 5
Views: 1249

Re: Article about Empathy & Men

I agree. Men are raised to think that they can act however they like and that they should be the star of the show and that they need not worry about other people's feelings. My husband likes to think he has empathy but it's only when it's convenient for him. Sometimes I just give in and give him the...
by WhyOhWhy
Wed Nov 28, 2018 10:00 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: The Inevitable Christmas Gift
Replies: 33
Views: 4818

Re: The Enevitable Christmas Gift

I say look into specialty paper shops/gift stores for silly tissue paper - say little pigs or cows for example? That would send a message of what you think of her but of course you have plausible deniability by saying "I thought the paper was super cute!" p.s. I also got my husband's mother a gift f...
by WhyOhWhy
Mon Nov 26, 2018 5:16 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Less that half listening and zero empathy
Replies: 6
Views: 1258

Re: Less that half listening and zero empathy

This story is gold. Of course there is also the possibility that the woman has some dementia which will be an interesting ride to watch if that's the case. Just steer clear and shake your head from the sidelines.
by WhyOhWhy
Mon Nov 26, 2018 5:02 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Need Helpful Advice! Please and Thank you!
Replies: 11
Views: 2015

Re: Need Helpful Advice! Please and Thank you!

Thanks for all your helpful responses! The sad part about all this is that my 9m old daughter has only met him one time. He is the only one in the entire family to have met her at this point. He’s such a showsman. When he came down for my wedding, he was taking a ton of photos of her etc..but he ha...
by WhyOhWhy
Thu Nov 22, 2018 12:20 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Need Helpful Advice! Please and Thank you!
Replies: 11
Views: 2015

Re: Need Helpful Advice! Please and Thank you!

I agree with the others that you should avoid going to any event that you don't feel comfortable attending. I sometimes feel up for a family thing, and other times I skip out, and not for a single second would I tolerate my hubs trying to make me feel guilty for it. Like PMILIHP said, it's a form of...
by WhyOhWhy
Tue Nov 20, 2018 6:34 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Let the games begin
Replies: 13
Views: 1989

Re: Let the games begin

I got a completely different phone number that my in-laws will never in a million years have. If they need or want something they go through my hubs, which is fine by me. They know that mine is the final say on how the holidays tend to go and so he'll have to clear anything by me anyway if he wants ...
by WhyOhWhy
Tue Nov 20, 2018 6:15 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: DH says he wants "fair"...
Replies: 12
Views: 2246

Re: DH says he wants "fair"...

I agree that you need to put your foot down. Learn the mantra "I'm sorry, but that is just not going to work for me". If your hubs doesn't like it, he can go by himself (which seems to me they would love, since they don't acknowledge your existence when you're there anyway). Be prepared to go to you...
by WhyOhWhy
Sat Nov 17, 2018 5:55 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: The poster of "Its not your house. "
Replies: 3
Views: 885

Re: The poster of "Its not your house. "

It seems as though if the MIL was hot, she could say something and they could put a few table top fans in the room. It is incredibly presumptuous to think you can install a ceiling fan w/o asking the owners of the home first. Just because the husband is an only child doesn't mean people who cannot r...
by WhyOhWhy
Fri Nov 16, 2018 3:25 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Get a grip, FIL
Replies: 6
Views: 1112

Re: Get a grip, FIL

I'd try to get a photo with you and her together, smiling happily. Nothing irritates people like your FIL like seeing you happy with people they've tried to discard.
by WhyOhWhy
Mon Nov 12, 2018 4:24 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Yahoo Article Today
Replies: 9
Views: 1655

Yahoo Article Today

Did you all see this today on yahoo? I can completely relate. After what I thought was a nice visit with my in-laws, I found out from a screen shot that a txt was sent around the family badmouthing me. Like the woman in the article, I was taken by surprise because all I wanted was to connect with th...
by WhyOhWhy
Wed Nov 07, 2018 10:14 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: NieceIL wants to meet up
Replies: 11
Views: 2277

Re: NieceIL wants to meet up

If your NIL is that nice, she may also be nice to THEM, and so unwittingly become a FM (as you suggested). I would counsel your husband to enjoy getting together with her, but to keep details about your lives to a minimum when talking with her. It's just a precaution, and then she has plausible deni...
by WhyOhWhy
Tue Nov 06, 2018 8:33 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: In-laws back to their old tricks on social media
Replies: 13
Views: 1997

Re: In-laws back to their old tricks on social media

No more pics for the in-laws. They show absolutely no respect for your wishes.
by WhyOhWhy
Mon Nov 05, 2018 11:10 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: She’s Making The Rounds
Replies: 11
Views: 2036

Re: She’s Making The Rounds

It's so hard when in-laws are prone to just springing a visit upon you. I admit I haven't always been great about standing firm when confronted with a relative knocking at the door. I guess it's that Southern Hospitality mentality that was drilled into me that you always open your door with a smile ...
by WhyOhWhy
Thu Nov 01, 2018 7:07 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Hi, I'm back... and here's an update
Replies: 9
Views: 1958

Re: Hi, I'm back... and here's an update

It's nice to know that we aren't the only ones with circus performers for family members. I agree with the suggestion that you could play a little interference. Any time I have done so has been a blessed break for us and has always resulted in hubs realizing how wonderful life is without the circus ...