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by WhyOhWhy
Fri Sep 28, 2018 7:45 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: What Are You Preparing For The Holidays?
Replies: 14
Views: 1735

What Are You Preparing For The Holidays?

We're getting closer to the holiday season (for us it kicks off at Halloween). It's time to start thinking about how much involvement we want to have with the in-laws, what to get for gifts (if any), etc. What are your plans looking like this year? Will you need to see your in-laws? Any battle plans...
by WhyOhWhy
Fri Sep 28, 2018 7:30 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: To the Poster of "Only the kids see the IL's"
Replies: 8
Views: 1281

Re: To the Poster of "Only the kids see the IL's"

I'm so glad that a.) my kids are too old to need babysitting anymore and b.) the in-laws don't live close enough for it to be an issue anyway. My kids have zero interest in their grandparents because they know how awful they are (I do not keep secrets like that from my kids because I feel it is impo...
by WhyOhWhy
Fri Sep 28, 2018 7:23 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Well, now I know for sure I can be okay with NC
Replies: 15
Views: 1931

Re: Well, now I know for sure I can be okay with NC

I'm so sorry that your MIL gave you that reaction to you showing genuine compassion. Unfortunately, such people are not capable of accepting (or having) genuine feelings like that. It is so foreign to their black hearts that they literally don't even know what to do with it, other than swat it away....
by WhyOhWhy
Fri Sep 28, 2018 7:10 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: To the poster “Promise To My Son”
Replies: 6
Views: 886

Re: To the poster “Promise To My Son”

I couldn't agree more. My oldest is a mid-20-something in a committed relationship, and I make darned sure that that person feels WELCOMED into our family, and yet I give them tons and tons of space. I've communicated with my oldest about just letting me know if I ask a question they aren't prepared...
by WhyOhWhy
Fri Sep 28, 2018 7:03 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: How did I know this was going to happen?
Replies: 10
Views: 1287

Re: How did I know this was going to happen?

Yup, just let it ring next time. That's what I do. They know how to leave a message if it's urgent, and then we can decide if it warrants a response or not.
by WhyOhWhy
Fri Sep 21, 2018 8:38 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Well that was interesting
Replies: 9
Views: 1385

Re: Well that was interesting

It's often a little unsettling when a visit goes reasonably well. If you're like me, you're always a little paranoid, wondering when the next shoe will drop! My MIL seems frail and fragile when it suits her, but somehow she still manages her circle of little birds for a good gossip session (usually ...
by WhyOhWhy
Mon Sep 17, 2018 7:21 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: What picture/stuff would you post if there was anonymity?
Replies: 13
Views: 1429

Re: What picture/stuff would you post if there was anonymity

I was thinking about this and realized I wouldn't bother to share or post anything (other than what I've shared in much earlier years of our marriage). Any evidence I might have of bad-doings on the part of my husband's family is always explained away or the flying monkeys are so entrenched into the...
by WhyOhWhy
Mon Sep 17, 2018 7:01 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: FIL and Twitter
Replies: 9
Views: 1098

Re: FIL and Twitter

It's sad to think that your husband has been conditioned his whole life to think that his parent's actions are normal. Maybe he really believes the crud coming out of his parents' mouths or maybe as noted above he is just in denial. Either way, until he can open his eyes to the reality you will have...
by WhyOhWhy
Tue Sep 11, 2018 5:07 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Im Going crazy
Replies: 5
Views: 882

Re: Im Going crazy

Very insightful, jigglypuff, as always. These sorts of folks are often sitting in wait, hoping to poke and prod you into a response. Don't give it to them. You gave them a piece of your mind, now leave it at that. Definitely see the police as a preventative measure. It's hard to contain the intense ...
by WhyOhWhy
Sat Sep 08, 2018 11:59 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: School Questions
Replies: 5
Views: 932

Re: School Questions

I don't think even if my kids did every single sport in the world, signed up for every activity possible on the side, did community service, then cured cancer, that it would be enough. They aren't asking because they are actually interested. They are asking so they can take the info and turn around ...
by WhyOhWhy
Fri Sep 07, 2018 6:52 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: School Questions
Replies: 5
Views: 932

School Questions

School has begun, as have the questions. Questions about what classes the kids are taking, but also what sports they are doing. Our kids are not exactly athletically-minded. Then there are the questions about what other activities we are doing. I appreciate (?) that they "care" about our kids buildi...
by WhyOhWhy
Thu Sep 06, 2018 3:19 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Just say no
Replies: 8
Views: 1165

Re: Just say no

Thank you for this post. My entire life I have never placed boundaries for myself. I never really knew it was a thing, or acceptable. I don’t know if I’ve ever needed to long ago, or if I just simply overlooked everything and just cruised on in life by avoiding conflict. I’m still learning and grow...
by WhyOhWhy
Thu Sep 06, 2018 3:14 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Moving away Is it the only real answer!
Replies: 9
Views: 1236

Re: Moving away Is it the only real answer!

Moving away **IS** the only answer. I will say it to my dying day. So glad we don't live anywhere near my in-laws any more. I would recommend to anyone who can manage it to find a way to move.
by WhyOhWhy
Wed Sep 05, 2018 5:14 pm
Forum: Non-In-Laws Talk
Topic: Had to Make a Change
Replies: 3
Views: 909

Had to Make a Change

I have been doing soul searching. I am not the person I have wanted to be. I am filled with anger, bitterness, etc regarding my in-laws. Don't get me wrong, they are horrible people, but I always thought I was better than to stoop to their level. I guess I have fallen far short of where I wanted to ...