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by WhyOhWhy
Mon Aug 12, 2019 6:56 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Update: I'm mildly surprised they hate me this much
Replies: 13
Views: 1189

Re: Update: I'm mildly surprised they hate me this much

At some point he'll have to realize that he's not the boss of you. You two are supposed to be PARTNERS. Let him have his temper tantrum. He'll get over it, and eventually realize that (just like a 3 year old) he can fuss, lash out and act like a child all he wants. Stand firm. It's hard on a man's e...
by WhyOhWhy
Mon Aug 12, 2019 6:49 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Finally! A visit I can enjoy!
Replies: 4
Views: 582

Re: Finally! A visit I can enjoy!

Gosh darnit, isn't it just SO inconvenient when things come up so you "can't" go tend to the needs of the wicked old witch? I'm so sorry you'll miss out on such a fun time 8) 8) 8)
by WhyOhWhy
Mon Aug 12, 2019 6:44 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: DS doesn't want to see the ILs
Replies: 7
Views: 654

Re: DS doesn't want to see the ILs

I don't let what the in-laws OR my DH think about whether or not I attend events sway my decision. I am protecting my own sanity when I miss events. If DH doesn't see that, that is his own problem. Back in the days when my hubs hadn't opened his eyes yet to how horrible his family really is, I would...
by WhyOhWhy
Mon Aug 05, 2019 9:56 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: MIL just can’t turn it off, DH enabler
Replies: 4
Views: 533

Re: MIL just can’t turn it off, DH enabler

It's all so silly, isn't it? The tit for tat isn't going to resolve anything and will only create more hard feelings. I agree with the previous comment that you should get DH and SIL in communication with one another. My hubs knows I would never agree to not talking smack about his FOO, but I do it ...
by WhyOhWhy
Mon Aug 05, 2019 9:47 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Evil PILs (what’s new?)
Replies: 7
Views: 778

Re: Evil PILs (what’s new?)

So was there any progress made at mediation? So glad you were able to hold it together. Hopefully this will be but a memory soon for you.
by WhyOhWhy
Thu Aug 01, 2019 12:32 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Evil PILs (what’s new?)
Replies: 7
Views: 778

Re: Evil PILs (what’s new?)

I hope you didn't respond when your EH said that to you. Of COURSE he wants you to feel blamed. He will do anything to upset you. Just remember, at the end of the day it is HE who will be upset. As for the new lawyer, try not to let it get to you. I wouldn't change any monitary things just because h...
by WhyOhWhy
Thu Aug 01, 2019 12:23 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: To The PILs, everything is about money
Replies: 12
Views: 1213

Re: To The PILs, everything is about money

Mara, if you keep YOUR cool, the judge will see that. They will see the other side acting all nutty. They WANT to goad you into a high-intensity anger response. That will make YOU seem unstable. Absolutely do NOT respond next time they say something, no matter WHAT sort of BS it is. Stay cool, calm ...
by WhyOhWhy
Mon Jul 22, 2019 9:32 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Contemplating Blocking all IL’s on social media
Replies: 4
Views: 502

Re: Contemplating Blocking all IL’s on social media

I'd keep them on your friend list but add them all onto a specific list (I named my list of flying monkeys and such "NO" so it's easy for me to find when I am selecting the audience for my posts) and then just add that list onto the bottom section where it says "EXCEPT these people or lists". Like y...
by WhyOhWhy
Thu Jul 18, 2019 2:42 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Felony Niece is pregnant, the rules are different for her
Replies: 13
Views: 1046

Re: Felony Niece is pregnant, the rules are different for he

Don't you just love the selective memory these men can sometimes have when it comes to their own family?? I hope your FN finally gets herself together for the sake of the baby. Who knows, maybe lightning will strike and this relationship will last, but if not hopefully she continues on her path towa...
by WhyOhWhy
Mon Jul 15, 2019 5:38 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: No Visit, phew!
Replies: 2
Views: 343

No Visit, phew!

I recently found out that the outlaws are not going to do their annual camping trip to our back yard this summer. I cannot even express how delightful this news has been to me!
by WhyOhWhy
Sat Jul 13, 2019 1:38 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: To The PILs, everything is about money
Replies: 12
Views: 1213

Re: To The PILs, everything is about money

Along with the other advice, of course you probably already know that you shouldn't have responded to him in the first place. Stick to your guns and only talk about the kids or ABSOLUTELY necessary things. He's goading you into a response, and you gave it to him. That whole family sounds like a bit ...
by WhyOhWhy
Wed Jul 03, 2019 7:57 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Advice for responding to toxic people?
Replies: 6
Views: 936

Re: Advice for responding to toxic people?

Leave the heavy lifting to your attorney, Hun. Stay no-contact. It's the only way you will ever have any peace. Anything that comes up, they are welcomed to contact your attorney and/or mediator.
by WhyOhWhy
Wed Jul 03, 2019 7:55 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: CO Father
Replies: 11
Views: 1029

Re: CO Father

"Sorry Sis, but after giving this a lot of thought and talking it over at great length with my husband, I am sorry to say we're going to have to renig on the kids going with you to my dad's bday thing. I hope you can understand."
by WhyOhWhy
Wed Jul 03, 2019 7:52 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: So close to awareness...
Replies: 5
Views: 444

Re: So close to awareness...

OMG I can so relate! It's funny, because we have a great relationship with my own family, with my extended family, and with a great circle of friends and acquaintances in our lives. The only people who are ever an issue are hubs' FOO - where mental illness runs rampant (but most are in denial, even ...
by WhyOhWhy
Wed Jul 03, 2019 7:43 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: To go or not to go...
Replies: 11
Views: 882

Re: To go or not to go...

I usually choose one of two actions (and both have been great): 1.) Don't go. Have hubby go if that's what he really wants to do. Bon voyage, Sweetie, and don't feel the need to bring me back any cake! 2.) Go, but with an obnoxious friend. I act my usual sweet, friendly and accommodating way while m...