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by WhyOhWhy
Tue Jun 25, 2019 4:11 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: I have made a terrible mistake
Replies: 10
Views: 804

Re: I have made a terrible mistake

Part of me wonders if I need to go and have this fight. I'm tired of cowering to bullies. I've told this story before, but it bears repeating. I told my in-laws exactly how badly I thought their shit stank. It caused a huge (!!) blow-out, but you know what? They don't f$@# with me any more. They kn...
by WhyOhWhy
Mon Jun 24, 2019 6:46 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: NieceIL and DH text
Replies: 3
Views: 414

Re: NieceIL and DH text

I'd discuss this with your husband. Let him know you feel hurt and left out, and can he please include you in the conversation with NIL. It's possible (just playing devil's advocate, here) that NIL feels she'd upset her mother if her mother found out she was approaching you for advice, and may figur...
by WhyOhWhy
Mon Jun 24, 2019 6:40 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: what if her grandchildren heard her?
Replies: 4
Views: 504

Re: what if her grandchildren heard her?

People like her do things like this to triangulate. In other words, she's hoping to create bad feelings between you and your niece, as well as make you feel inferior and unwanted (when it's more likely that your MIL is the only one who doesn't want you there). You clearly have rattled this old bird'...
by WhyOhWhy
Mon Jun 24, 2019 6:31 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: I have made a terrible mistake
Replies: 10
Views: 804

Re: I have made a terrible mistake

Yeah, that would have to be a hard no from me. I'd find a way out of it. At the very least, I'd go and feign illness once at the hotel. Once your hubs and the others leave, head on down to the pool (if there is one) with a good book. If there's no pool, enjoy some peace and quiet.
by WhyOhWhy
Thu Jun 20, 2019 7:28 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: It's up to DH now!
Replies: 2
Views: 403

Re: It's up to DH now!

It took some ultimatums to get my DH to pull more wool away from his eyes as well. It's too bad it has to come to that, but it should serve as a wake-up call to him. Don't give up on the guy just yet, as he's been emotionally manipulated by this woman his entire life. He's been made to feel that how...
by WhyOhWhy
Sat Jun 15, 2019 8:03 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: In need of encouraging words today!
Replies: 8
Views: 816

Re: In need of encouraging words today!

I am editing this comment of mine just in case my lovely in-laws feel they have discovered this site and who I am on here. Today is Father's Day, and the kids and I plan to spoil my husband like crazy today. Happy Father's Day to all the great dads out there!
by WhyOhWhy
Sat Jun 15, 2019 5:21 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: In need of encouraging words today!
Replies: 8
Views: 816

Re: In need of encouraging words today!

Firstly, I wish I could reach through this screen to give you a hug. It is SOOOO hard when we set a boundary and our husbands break that boundary because they do not agree with it. It wasn't a difficult request: Keep the bitch and her slimy, toxic energy out of my safezone. He could have met her ANY...
by WhyOhWhy
Sun Jun 09, 2019 8:48 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: FIL WEDDING WEEKEND/APOLOGY TOUR ADVICE?
Replies: 4
Views: 507

Re: FIL WEDDING WEEKEND/APOLOGY TOUR ADVICE?

I've found it's so much easier to just distance yourself as much from any in-laws who are toxic to be around. Such people LOVE it when we respond and show our frustration/anger with them. That was their whole goal in the first place! I wouldn't give him the satisfaction! If you wanted to throw him o...
by WhyOhWhy
Thu Jun 06, 2019 1:14 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: 75th Anniversary of D-Day, FIL was a coward
Replies: 3
Views: 452

Re: 75th Anniversary of D-Day, FIL was a coward

I am sure it feels gratifying to know that your FIL is a liar, but perhaps there are reasons for his dishonesty. It's very possible that he feels guilty for not having served while so many young men died? I know it's hard to hold onto evidence that someone isn't telling the truth about who they are,...
by WhyOhWhy
Thu Jun 06, 2019 1:01 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: MIL from Hades
Replies: 9
Views: 900

Re: MIL from Hades

I have found over time that disengaging with the in-laws has brought me far more peace and joy in my life than any time that I managed to tell them how badly their shit stinks. Honestly, they don't care about what we think and will only use anything you write as ammo to show everyone else that you h...
by WhyOhWhy
Mon Jun 03, 2019 5:58 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: It boggles the mind!
Replies: 6
Views: 606

Re: It boggles the mind!

That's a toughie. I have friends who have VERY different approaches to pretty much everything - child-rearing, family relations, etc I've cut some people out who I just lost all respect for and couldn't just sit there and pretend I was OK with how they were treating others. There are other friends, ...
by WhyOhWhy
Tue May 28, 2019 8:46 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: It's been awhile - just an update
Replies: 5
Views: 683

Re: It's been awhile - just an update

Nothing, and I do mean nothing, has ever tasted soooo good as that feeling when we pulled away from town with all of our stuff in the back of a U-Haul with the in-laws in the rear-view mirror. We endured so much pain when we lived closer to them. I've seen it written in these forums many times and I...
by WhyOhWhy
Tue May 21, 2019 4:07 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: BEC Mini-Vents
Replies: 8
Views: 874

Re: BEC Mini-Vents

OK, this week's BEC vent: My in-laws are talking again about a visit, and yet STILL not asking us when is a good time for us. They got upset the last time I suggested an alternate date (I mean, heaven forbid! It's not like it's my house or anything - and they also seem to forget that I am the social...
by WhyOhWhy
Tue May 21, 2019 3:59 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Attention Seeking Theatrics
Replies: 15
Views: 1276

Re: Attention Seeking Theatrics

I suppose I should be grateful the in-laws have very little to do with us? (they think it's a punishment...lololololol!) I DON'T miss the days of living closer and being emotionally abused regularly and needing to protect my children from their mind games and attitudes. These days, we seem to be at ...
by WhyOhWhy
Wed May 15, 2019 7:16 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Mandatory Acknowledgement Day
Replies: 18
Views: 1465

Re: Mandatory Acknowledgement Day

I absolutely agree that this site has been a godsend for years. Over time, it has become a refuge, a sounding board, a cheering squad, an inspiration, and so much more. I've gone from a place of utter despair, confusion, and exasperation to a place of more calm and laughter. I'm not saying the IL's ...