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by WhyOhWhy
Tue May 28, 2019 8:46 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: It's been awhile - just an update
Replies: 5
Views: 770

Re: It's been awhile - just an update

Nothing, and I do mean nothing, has ever tasted soooo good as that feeling when we pulled away from town with all of our stuff in the back of a U-Haul with the in-laws in the rear-view mirror. We endured so much pain when we lived closer to them. I've seen it written in these forums many times and I...
by WhyOhWhy
Tue May 21, 2019 4:07 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: BEC Mini-Vents
Replies: 8
Views: 1008

Re: BEC Mini-Vents

OK, this week's BEC vent: My in-laws are talking again about a visit, and yet STILL not asking us when is a good time for us. They got upset the last time I suggested an alternate date (I mean, heaven forbid! It's not like it's my house or anything - and they also seem to forget that I am the social...
by WhyOhWhy
Tue May 21, 2019 3:59 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Attention Seeking Theatrics
Replies: 15
Views: 1456

Re: Attention Seeking Theatrics

I suppose I should be grateful the in-laws have very little to do with us? (they think it's a punishment...lololololol!) I DON'T miss the days of living closer and being emotionally abused regularly and needing to protect my children from their mind games and attitudes. These days, we seem to be at ...
by WhyOhWhy
Wed May 15, 2019 7:16 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Mandatory Acknowledgement Day
Replies: 18
Views: 1689

Re: Mandatory Acknowledgement Day

I absolutely agree that this site has been a godsend for years. Over time, it has become a refuge, a sounding board, a cheering squad, an inspiration, and so much more. I've gone from a place of utter despair, confusion, and exasperation to a place of more calm and laughter. I'm not saying the IL's ...
by WhyOhWhy
Tue May 14, 2019 5:40 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Mandatory Acknowledgement Day
Replies: 18
Views: 1689

Re: Mandatory Acknowledgement Day

WhyOhWhy~ I like the way you think too. I remember in an old post, you mentioned how you’d like to be in the presence of the horrible IL’s. You show them that they don’t intimidate you, and you go about being so pleasant and happy because that rubs them the wrong way... My MIL is taking a trip up n...
by WhyOhWhy
Sun May 12, 2019 5:21 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Mandatory Acknowledgement Day
Replies: 18
Views: 1689

Re: Mandatory Acknowledgement Day

Hmm. I got a Mother's Day card from Stepmonster - AND she spelled my name correctly (second time since my b-day, but not for 16 years before this). I just put it in the shredder. You've read the history, Is there a way to interpret this in ANY other way than she's fishing for a gift? That or its an...
by WhyOhWhy
Fri Apr 26, 2019 11:22 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: What would you do?
Replies: 2
Views: 567

Re: What would you do?

We are also skipping out on a wedding because of toxicity concerns. I think people love to use events such as family reunions, holidays and weddings to sorta "trap" their victims. What I mean is, the people they want to harass (or act shirty to) would seem rude if they just up and left. These kinds ...
by WhyOhWhy
Fri Apr 26, 2019 11:14 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Who else is having an in-law (or toxic in law) free Easter?
Replies: 14
Views: 1569

Re: Who else is having an in-law (or toxic in law) free East

We had a blessedly in-law-free Easter...not a visit, not a phone call, just a quick txt wishing us a nice day (which I don't mind). We had a great day surrounded by people who genuinely enjoy our company. That is pretty much our life goals at this point: surround ourselves and our children with peop...
by WhyOhWhy
Tue Apr 09, 2019 5:32 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: CluelessBIL still a criminal
Replies: 12
Views: 1400

Re: CluelessBIL still a criminal

Wow, what a loser! He's clearly heading down the road towards prison (it's amazing he hasn't landed himself there yet). It's only normal to be curious, so don't feel too badly about peeking. Finger's crossed that Eddie Munster is being kept away from all of that.
by WhyOhWhy
Fri Mar 29, 2019 5:34 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Do I send a mother's day card and bouquet for my BH
Replies: 10
Views: 1238

Re: Do I send a mother's day card and bouquet for my BH

Welcome to the forum! I've gone through various cycles of "no gift or phone call reminders" to reminding about (or just DOING) calls and gifts. I think it really depends on how painful it is for you to be enmeshed with your in-laws. These days, I do actually remind about gifts and calls (when I thin...
by WhyOhWhy
Tue Mar 26, 2019 11:24 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: My Daughter’s MIL
Replies: 11
Views: 1697

Re: My Daughter’s MIL

It most certainly is how BS is conducted with toxic people. They harm through favoritism, triangulation, and isolation. They try to make others feel inadequate as they choose someone else to favor in that moment. It is very sick. I think this coming year's holiday plans sound lovely, and make total ...
by WhyOhWhy
Tue Mar 26, 2019 11:16 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: What to do with family photos of the evil ILs?
Replies: 11
Views: 1088

Re: What to do with family photos of the evil ILs?

Hiddenjem wrote: He has the option to walk around our country neighborhood to visit with 15 of his relatives! They do not need their pictures displayed in our home!
Oh you poor thing to live so close to so much of his family!
by WhyOhWhy
Mon Mar 25, 2019 10:41 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Deep Thought
Replies: 14
Views: 1471

Re: Deep Thought

I told my H that his hands aren't broken and that he's fully capable of remembering to call/email/webcam with his parents (although I am usually the one who ends up reminding him to do so when several weeks have gone by). I told him that he is fully capable of having conversations with his mother th...
by WhyOhWhy
Mon Mar 25, 2019 10:25 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: What to do with family photos of the evil ILs?
Replies: 11
Views: 1088

Re: What to do with family photos of the evil ILs?

I don't have many photos up in my home (does that make me a bad mother?!), and I definitely do not have any of the in-laws (there used to be a nice framed photo of Hubs' FOO that we used to have in our hallway of one of our previous homes, but somehow that has mysteriously been packed away and gosh ...
by WhyOhWhy
Sun Mar 24, 2019 11:09 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Give me strength
Replies: 11
Views: 1259

Re: Give me strength

It is so hard when the DuH's don't even want to discuss the ways in which the entire family is dysfunctional. I mean, when these men are out in the world (or at home with US) they experience fairly normal, functional relationships and experiences - but when they are with their faaaaaamily, it's ofte...