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by WhyOhWhy
Sat Dec 19, 2020 9:56 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Birthday Card
Replies: 3
Views: 1101

Re: Birthday Card

These people often think they are so very clever and smart, when in reality they are as transparent as glass. I can imagine he's so proud of himself for thinking he's "getting one by you" by leaving off his name...as though he matters all that much in the grand scheme of things. :lol:
by WhyOhWhy
Sat Dec 12, 2020 4:09 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: MIL sighting - in MY neighborhood
Replies: 2
Views: 951

Re: MIL sighting - in MY neighborhood

Wheeeeee! It does certainly seem as though you're being "checked in" upon. Stand firm on the boundaries! I have to say, I'm glad it's not so easy for my IL's to just be "in the neighborhood".
by WhyOhWhy
Wed Dec 09, 2020 3:36 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: They Shouldn't Get Ideas
Replies: 4
Views: 1318

Re: They Shouldn't Get Ideas

@Melody, it seems as though it's the Same Shit Different Day for you guys as well!! Don't you just love the love bombing that happens right before special days where they hope you'll pamper them? I also wanted to add, that a certain situation we've spoken about is happening again and I will need to ...
by WhyOhWhy
Wed Dec 09, 2020 3:30 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: They Shouldn't Get Ideas
Replies: 4
Views: 1318

Re: They Shouldn't Get Ideas

I can definitely relate to your story. Venting, especially in writing, helps a ton. Do you think you and your DH would ever go full no contact with your MIL? No. DH is too afraid of hurting his Mummy's feelings. We are pretty low contact for the most part. Once MIL passes, however, I expect he'll h...
by WhyOhWhy
Fri Dec 04, 2020 12:28 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: They Shouldn't Get Ideas
Replies: 4
Views: 1318

They Shouldn't Get Ideas

My in-laws have been notorious over the years for expecting (demanding, really) that they are never held responsible for their actions and that everything must be swept under the rug. We were always to move on as though it never happened although they could hold a grudge as long as they wanted. The ...
by WhyOhWhy
Sat Nov 28, 2020 4:57 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: How to move forward...
Replies: 24
Views: 9818

Re: How to move forward...

Sorry to hear that you'll need some financial help with your repairs, but realize that your "family" likely never had any intentions of doing the work for what they originally "quoted". It actually sounds like they were setting you up for this disappointment from the beginning. I think you need to r...
by WhyOhWhy
Sat Nov 28, 2020 4:38 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: FIL has Christmas Cancer
Replies: 6
Views: 1882

Re: FIL has Christmas Cancer

Priceless! My MIL pulled this this year as well, and boy did she have all of her marionettes dangling by strings. Naturally, after the fact, doctors all agreed that it wasn't that major of an illness and that she'd be fine by the holidays - where she can bustle around, having socially undistanced ga...
by WhyOhWhy
Sat Nov 28, 2020 4:32 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Of Thanksgiving and Obedience
Replies: 7
Views: 1793

Re: Of Thanksgiving and Obedience

Great clapback of your mother's attempts to gaslight and/or upset! I think that now that you've taken control of that situation, next time you should just let any calls go to voicemail. I think these folks like the attention, even if it is negative attention.
by WhyOhWhy
Sat Nov 28, 2020 4:25 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: New Reason to Hate MIL
Replies: 5
Views: 1475

Re: New Reason to Hate MIL

PutMILinherplace wrote:
Thu Nov 26, 2020 2:25 pm
Practice in front of mirror. Get down the look. Get a look of pity, "oh you poor thing how stupid you are," Get that smile down and a slight nod of your head back and forth with a tsk tsk. Look at them with such a condescending smile. Start doing that EVERYTIME they say something.
PERFECT!!!
by WhyOhWhy
Tue Nov 24, 2020 10:16 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: New Reason to Hate MIL
Replies: 5
Views: 1475

Re: New Reason to Hate MIL

I agree with M2M: when the in-laws criticize others with similar attributes as you, they are criticizing YOU. Mine do it all the time with weight and national origin. The funniest part is, people like this think that their opinion matters and that anyone cares about their narrow-minded views. If you...
by WhyOhWhy
Mon Nov 02, 2020 8:07 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Motivations for horrible IL's to insist on having "a relationship"
Replies: 4
Views: 1681

Re: Motivations for horrible IL's to insist on having "a relationship"

You hit upon every single reason that I'm CERTAIN my IL's stay in touch with us when they clearly resent the hell out of us. I've given up caring about the attention they get on their end from bragging about being the world's best grandparents who are clearly victims of us not allowing them to emoti...
by WhyOhWhy
Mon Nov 02, 2020 7:40 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Upsides to the Pandemic and preparing for the holidays
Replies: 4
Views: 1188

Re: Upsides to the Pandemic and preparing for the holidays

p.s. As a result of the pandemic, we also will be enjoying Thanksgiving and Christmas by ourselves this year (aww, darn!).
by WhyOhWhy
Mon Nov 02, 2020 7:34 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Upsides to the Pandemic and preparing for the holidays
Replies: 4
Views: 1188

Re: Upsides to the Pandemic and preparing for the holidays

Oh, you get love-bombed right before the blessed birthday as well?! This time of year begins the love-bombing, because MIL wants to ensure she's held aloft for both her birthday and Christmas. DH falls for it every single time, thinking his mother is "feeling nostalgic" for the holidays. Even now he...
by WhyOhWhy
Wed Oct 28, 2020 4:30 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Holding a Grudge
Replies: 4
Views: 1470

Re: Holding a Grudge

I needed this reminder today for another situation within our extended family, so thank you. Personally, where my own in-laws are concerned I feel that the two concepts (holding a grudge vs. setting boundaries) are not mutually exclusive 8) I freely admit that after so many years of BS from the in-l...
by WhyOhWhy
Tue Oct 13, 2020 7:59 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Update on "The Next Time You Visit!"
Replies: 10
Views: 2633

Re: Update on "The Next Time You Visit!"

It's interesting that you mention that your husband wouldn't mention seeing the ILs until it was really too late to turn off. It's like he wanted to be able to say he'd brought it up, but YOU didn't follow up on it (so you're the scape goat) to ease his conscience about not actually doing it. (I rea...