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by WhyOhWhy
Mon Jun 01, 2020 9:30 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Hoovering At Max Capacity
Replies: 4
Views: 2314

Re: Hoovering At Max Capacity

Yup, sounds like it's just to prove an inaccurate point to her "friend" and just using you for that purpose. I would ignore it as much as possible, and of course stop DH from sharing any more info with her.
by WhyOhWhy
Mon Jun 01, 2020 9:24 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Enough with the Martyr Routine!
Replies: 6
Views: 2896

Re: Enough with the Martyr Routine!

I would absolutely go as well if it meant irritating the IL's while also being there to protect the kids! Having said that, however... "@WhyOhWhy - true but DH whines about how he has the right and the children "deserve" to know his paaaaaaarents - no matter how much I point out how they've F'd up a...
by WhyOhWhy
Tue May 26, 2020 11:16 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Enough with the Martyr Routine!
Replies: 6
Views: 2896

Re: Enough with the Martyr Routine!

Just because your husband used the word "we" when referring to a potential visit, that does not obligate you and the kids to go! PLEASE remember that. He doesn't speak for you, isn't the boss of you, and your kids need protection from the toxic shit show and if you're the one who has to enforce that...
by WhyOhWhy
Mon May 18, 2020 9:07 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: To the writer of "Total Idiot"
Replies: 2
Views: 2163

To the writer of "Total Idiot"

Maybe you should try this: Get right next to his ear like you see in the movies when there's an elderly person who is hard of hearing and yell loudly in that same way "Hey Grandpa, I said it's nice to see you!" (very slow, deliberate, and loud) and then pat him on the shoulder/back and move on. He'l...
by WhyOhWhy
Mon May 18, 2020 9:04 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Relief in Being Ignored
Replies: 8
Views: 3817

Re: Relief in Being Ignored

PMILIHP toxic in-laws definitely do not appreciate being called out on their crap. Good for you for standing up for yourself! They're used to everyone just kowtowing to them and just don't know what to do when someone comes along with a spine and a healthy sense of boundaries.
by WhyOhWhy
Mon May 18, 2020 12:20 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Relief in Being Ignored
Replies: 8
Views: 3817

Re: Relief in Being Ignored

Mine have tried ignoring and neglecting me as a "punishment" (which I thoroughly enjoyed and appreciated!) and they've tried being overly nice (which I really couldn't care less about). They think that being nice to me has the same effect that my being nice to THEM has (it irritates the hell out of ...
by WhyOhWhy
Sat May 16, 2020 12:47 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Happy Motherless Mother's Day!
Replies: 3
Views: 1992

Re: Happy Motherless Mother's Day!

OMG PMILIHP, you kill me! :lol:

I hope you had a great Mother's Day! Mine was quiet but lovely, and although not entirely MIL-less, she chose to play nice this year as did I with what LC we do have.
by WhyOhWhy
Sat May 16, 2020 12:24 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Advice on how to handle in-laws
Replies: 4
Views: 2505

Re: Advice on how to handle in-laws

I don't know if you've responded to the sister yet or not, but personally I would pass the message on to your husband and let HIM answer it. Do NOT engage in any communication that is adversarial. This is what we do with my MIL. If she can behave herself in communications, she gets a faster response...
by WhyOhWhy
Sat May 16, 2020 12:15 am
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: I broke no contact to go scorched earth on MIL
Replies: 3
Views: 2143

Re: I broke no contact to go scorched earth on MIL

I wish I had helpful words to say. I'm so sorry. Your husband is clearly perfectly fine with the frequency and amount of contact and interaction with his parents (and likely doesn't quite fully understand why YOU are NOT). It's such a hard position to be in when you aren't on the same page like that...
by WhyOhWhy
Wed May 06, 2020 6:28 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Dusting Off Some Thoughts
Replies: 10
Views: 4712

Re: Dusting Off Some Thoughts

I’m sorry I missed the original post. Looks like it’s been removed? I recently had a crazy situation pop up yesterday with my husbands mother. She’s definitely working overtime to get in good graces with me. She’s gone the longest length of time of not seeing her son (my DH) and she knows it’s beca...
by WhyOhWhy
Wed May 06, 2020 6:25 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: Dusting Off Some Thoughts
Replies: 10
Views: 4712

Re: Dusting Off Some Thoughts

Its funny. My MIL admitted once that "this" was not the way it was suppose to be. ...Then she was suppose to quit work and everyone take care of her because of course she deserved it for raising (snark) her children.... she controlled everything... She was SOOOOO mad because her kids did not follow...
by WhyOhWhy
Tue May 05, 2020 5:33 pm
Forum: Non-In-Laws Talk
Topic: Barf - Jocasta Post
Replies: 3
Views: 4904

Re: Barf - Jocasta Post

Yeah, it's pretty barfy. These insecure and clingy moms want the ready-made perfect husband, and when that doesn't happen (because no one is perfect but more likely they marry for status rather than actual compatibility) they try to forge that connection with the only male who she can mold to adore ...
by WhyOhWhy
Tue May 05, 2020 5:24 pm
Forum: Non-In-Laws Talk
Topic: How is everyone doing?
Replies: 24
Views: 15164

Re: How is everyone doing?

Ladies, I always love coming to this forum to see the support everyone graciously and generously gives to one another. It is sometimes what keeps me sane during some rather crazy times including this pandemic. You all know my deal and why I don't say too much these days about it "publicly" and yet y...
by WhyOhWhy
Tue May 05, 2020 5:15 pm
Forum: Non-In-Laws Talk
Topic: How is everyone doing?
Replies: 24
Views: 15164

Re: How is everyone doing?

I am feeling under the weather but it could be due to certain health issues I'm dealing with. We will see. This is all wearing on us heavily. My mom is basically taking care of everyone. Doing everyone's groceries and sewing masks for the family. I just hope this virus passes on sometime soon. It's...
by WhyOhWhy
Tue May 05, 2020 3:21 pm
Forum: In-Laws Talk
Topic: FIL Moving
Replies: 6
Views: 3754

Re: FIL Moving

Hooray! That's great news! You must already be breathing huge sighs of relief in anticipation of having a much more peaceful life!