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More updates on Felony-Niece

Post by willthetruthbetold » Tue Oct 22, 2019 7:46 am

Some of you may remember my posts about Golden SIL's DD, my Felony-Niece. FN started drinking and taking drugs in her early teens. FN would leave the house every night to party by the time she was 14, started having sex with men at 15 and soon after had a succession of juvenile arrests. GSIL's husband, the Pervert-BIL, would cuddle and fondle FN openly, smoke weed and drink together, and even took road trips without GSIL.
FN had a number of adult arrests, including several hit-and-run DUIs, probation violations, homelessness and never held a job for very long. PBIL kept rescuing her, GSIL would lie or cover up.
About a year ago, FN, then in her early 30s, was in such bad shape that GSIL finally allowed her to participate in an insurance scam that allows alcohol and drug addicted people to come to my state and go through detox. DH and I only found out about it through "nice"-SIL, after FN had been living nearby for a couple of weeks. FN went through detox, then GSIL decided to visit her and tried very hard to tempt FN with prescription drugs. I think that GSIL wanted to continue to control FN, like Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy.
In the meantime, PBIL was missing FN terribly, and decided to drive cross-country to see her. He hung around with her for two weeks and then the detox facility let him take her back home for a break. There was no talk about FN meeting any men. After another couple of weeks, she flew back to the detox facility. A few weeks later, she discovered that she was pregnant. I'm not saying that for sure PBIL had anything to do with it, but I'm also not saying that he didn't. FN around this time hooked up with a young man almost 10 years her junior who is convinced that he is FN's baby's father. He was in the middle of detox for his own addictions, a kid who has never held a full-time job, never owned a vehicle and has only lived with his mother until he left for the detox facility.
FN and Drug Boy couldn't find jobs or a place to live, so they went to live in GSIL's basement, back with PBIL who still smokes weed and drinks to blackout. Back under GSIL's roof where she constantly tries to convince FN to take different kinds of prescription drugs "because she is out of control when she isn't taking them." Out of whose control? FN and Drug Boy don't want to get married. FIL keeps giving FN money and she and DB have gotten matching tattoos with it rather than saving it for necessities. DB has a part-time minimum wage job, and FN refuses to get one. The narrative is that FN is a certain number of weeks pregnant, one that corresponds to her first "dating" DB but she is so big that it's questionable to everyone.
FN has no friends so GSIL had to throw a baby shower for her, wheedling a free venue out of a neighbor, who has since stopped speaking to GSIL. The shower was apparently a disaster, with FN showing up in her pajamas, no makeup, hair a big mess and barefoot. FN whined that she wanted people to buy everything on her baby registry, but they didn't and people thought it was rude.
GSIL is getting what she wants- her DD under her control. PBIL is getting what he wants- his DD under his roof. The Drug Boy is confused and I have to give him credit that he's still hanging in there, having to live in an old basement with a clingy gf and being treated like dirt by her family. FIL hates him. GSIL insists that she isn't going to help FN with the baby when she arrives.
I keep thinking about MIL who would do anything for appearances. FN was her favorite granddaughter, said that she was going to be a successful model and gave her things that she never once gave my DD. MIL would be horrified to see what a mess that FN turned out to be, how GSIL through her selfishness and control issues has made that family look bad, and how the neighbors were tired of the police showing up at all hours of the day and night. In a way, I wish that MIL was still around to see it all.

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Post by rubycrownedkinglet » Tue Oct 22, 2019 10:38 am

willthetruthbetold wrote: In a way, I wish that MIL was still around to see it all.
So funny, that's exactly what I was going to reply, that your MIL would deserve to see how low FN can go.
Then I realized that if your MIL was anything like my MIL, her golden one could do no wrong. My MIL made so many excuses for my ESIL that it was comical. Justifying her "luck" at "finding" random merchandise in the beds of pickup trucks in the Walmart parking lot was one of my favorites. When DH asked MIL if she realized that ESIL was stealing she actually said that if the owners wanted to keep their items they should've locked them up. Really?!
If I were Drug Boy I would definitely be asking for a paternity test. The basement is going to seem really good to him until he gets a reality check. There's no way that Perv-BIL is going to be able to abide the competition and will make his life a living hell before too long. Drug Boy will become the in-law out-law.
We all know how that turns out.

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Post by Melody » Tue Oct 22, 2019 1:49 pm

Not only do I remember its hard to forget! How disturbing and sad! I agree with Ruby that if Drug Boy has any brains (which even if he used to probably doesn't anymore) he would get a DNA test done. If he can't afford it? I'm sure Maury Povich would be happy to cover the cost of this one.

That poor baby - on every level. The best outcome of this situation would be if GSIL gave the baby up for adoption. But given her age and need for attention, it probably won't happen.

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Post by willthetruthbetold » Wed Oct 23, 2019 6:39 am

RubyCrownedKinglet- You're right, my MIL would make excuses, which she used to do when she was alive. She would also outright lie, then accuse anyone challenging her of "not liking us." You also pointed out what I have been thinking- the competition between Perv-BIL and Drug Boy. PBIL used to argue with people just to be unpleasant like he enjoyed bullying them. He has never agreed with me about anything. It's going to be a very toxic environment for DB. I wonder when DB is going to haul off and punch BIL in the face.
Melody- You hit the nail on the head about the baby. GSIL has already said that she doesn't want anything to do with her (the baby), isn't going to babysit... nothing. FN has no experience with babies or children, and has been doing nothing to prepare or educate herself. There are loving families wishing for a baby to adopt. Too bad that FN couldn't give the baby a chance to live with one of those families, not the dysfunctional, hateful house that seems to be her future.

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Post by jigglypuff » Wed Oct 23, 2019 2:28 pm

In a way, I wish that MIL was still around to see it all.
She might be seeing it all. Maybe that's her punishment in Hell :twisted:
A few weeks later, she discovered that she was pregnant. I'm not saying that for sure PBIL had anything to do with it, but I'm also not saying that he didn't
Okay, I threw up in my mouth a little when I read that. I really hope to God that it isn't her own father's child because that is the sickest, stomach churning... Ugh, I don't even want to think about it. Drug boy definitely needs a paternity test. If it isn't his, FN may have convinced his young, naive self that he is the father. What a mess.

Reading this is like watching a soap opera. You should write a book on these people. It would be a best seller for sure!
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Re: More updates on Felony-Niece

Post by willthetruthbetold » Thu Oct 24, 2019 5:46 am

Jigglypuff: I sure hope that in death, MIL has seen the results of her pushy, cruel, narcissistic, xenophobic, selfish and jealous life and actually has regrets about what she did. She had so many opportunities to do good things in her life, but always chose the option that gave her control over people. She probably wouldn't care that she hurt people, but she would be horrified and embarrassed at the way her favorite granddaughter turned out. If that's her personal hell, she has earned her place in it.
Regarding Perv-BIL and his relationship with Felony-Niece- I have lived a long life and have seen some very strange things, but almost nothing compares with the way that PBIL and FN interact with each other. PBIL is creepy, and I think most women who meet him have an instinctive reflex to get away. He literally has zero friends. None. Maybe it's the weird smirk on his face, or his tendency to argue with whatever you say in a demeaning tone, or just the feeling that women get when they're around a sexual predator... he's someone that people avoid. He writes on FN's social media pages all sorts of "I love my daughter," "Nothing is as precious as a daughter" "I will always be there for her" types of things. He gives FN money anytime she asks for it, his social media photo is of an almost-naked FN posing with him and he tells people that he hopes FN will live in his house as long as he's alive. I've posted about how FN, who is in her 30's, climbs into PervBIL's lap, strokes his face and chest, they coo special names to each other, they kiss and hug. The last time that I saw any couple do that, it was decades ago. Certainly, I've never seen PBIL and Golden SIL kiss, hold hands, call each other pet names or even nice names. PBIL and FN were making an obvious public display during MIL's funeral and people who were there told me how shocking and inappropriate their conduct was. They said that GSIL was acting like she didn't see it. During our visits when FN was young, PBIL would try to get her to sit in his lap and, worse, would try to get my own DD to sit in his lap, too. PBIL got angry when my DD didn't, and I told him that if my DD didn't want to sit in his lap (she was a teenager by then), no meant no. I told my DD to never be alone with PBIL and I kept a sharp eye on him during our visit. In response, PBIL angrily left where we were and refused see us the rest of our visit. One of DH's relatives told me tearfully/angrily that PBIL had groped her and that he crowed that he had always wanted to do it. PBIL has also relapsed back into heavy drinking and weed smoking. So with that kind of history, and with FN's pregnancy coinciding with PBIL's visit, it's very possible that the baby could be his. I sure hope it isn't, but I wouldn't be surprised if it was. It's another thing that MIL would be horrified about if she knew, but would still say that FN was her favorite granddaughter.

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Post by jigglypuff » Thu Oct 24, 2019 6:09 pm

How is that man not in jail yet? He must have been doing these things to women for as long as he was old enough to. He's a predator. To make it worse, he married a woman who enables it, yuck.

Those two remind me of my EBIL and his stupid wife. EBIL is a pervert and would say and do inappropriate things around me all the time. He knew me for a few months before he showed me a bestiality video someone sent him to his email. He also threw soft porn dvds on DH's lap right next to me with his mother and his wife (then gf) sitting with us. He'd also randomly come over to me and talk about strippers like I care.

EBIL was once accused of sexual harassment in the workplace but no one believed it because everyone thinks he's such a nice guy. I believe the girl because I've seen how disgusting EBIL really is. So has his wife and she acts as though he's a saint. Now he's teaching his 6 year old son how to be a pickup artist. His wife is just as gross as he is for allowing it.
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Post by willthetruthbetold » Sun Oct 27, 2019 5:45 am

Jigglypuff: Your EBIL description gives me the same sick feeling that I get around Perv-BIL and my FIL. I have a pretty good radar for such men... pervdar? My profession years ago was in a field that didn't traditionally have women in it. Most were gentlemen so the creeps really stood out. Men have given me looks, subtle-overt comments, dirty talk, "accidental" brushing against my body, actual grabbing, bold suggestions/requests/demands for sex, followed me to my car and pressed their exposed crotch against my window, trapped me in an office, threw me on the floor (a different event) and have almost been the victim of rape a half dozen times. i have a black belt in martial arts, so I was never actually raped but it came close. I can sense when a man starts getting thoughts in his head, know when they are thinking dangerous ideas, can smell their angry excitement and know exactly when the look in their eyes changes from civilized to violent. Perv-BIL lives in only a few modes: Lazy insolence, anger and perv-mode. He has the cold arrogance of someone who doesn't care about how his victims feel. To answer your question- I don't know why he's not in jail or prison. He may have been arrested in the past and it seems quite likely that he has because of his peculiar employment history. Golden SIL lives in a chronic state of denial, and I blame her as much as I blame Perv-BIL for his access to Felony-Niece because she's the mother and it was/is her job to protect her DD, even if that DD is in her early 30s.
As for your EBIL, I would never be in the same room as him, especially alone.
One last thing: My FIL is also a pervert and a psychopath. He didn't wear a wedding ring and would be "at work" at least 6 days a week. I think he was actually off trying to hook up with women other than MIL. I am certain that he molested Nice-SIL and forced himself on her. You can hear it in her voice, see it in the photos of when she was young and FIL was taking the photo. Nice-SIL was living at home and MIL was off at work, she didn't have a boyfriend and really didn't go out, but somehow she got pregnant and had a baby. It was MIL's reaction to all of this that really pointed to FIL's role in this. Instead of supporting Nice-SIL, MIL literally went berserk, tearing things up, screaming at both Nice-SIL and FIL, told Nice-SIL that she would throw her out of the house, forced FIL to buy her furs, expensive jewelry and a giant set of fake breasts. It was the beginning of MIL and FIL's expensive overseas trips. MIL never went to visit Nice-SIL ever, told everyone who would listed that Nice-SIL was a liar (I guess to prevent anyone from believing Nice-SIL if she ever told the story that FIL had gotten her pregnant) and told all sorts of lies about her that I found out later weren't true. Many years later, I told Nice-SIL that I knew about her baby, who she had been forced to give up by MIL and FIL, and the first thing that Nice-SIL said was, "He looks like dad's side of the family." Nice-SIL and her now-grown son had found each other online (long story), but when Nice-SIL said something about it to MIL and FIL, they actually FORBADE her to connect, threatening all sorts of banishments, cut off from their wills and from them. Indeed, her son looks just like FIL did when he was that age.
My thought is that GSIL grew up in a family where her father was molesting her sister so she thinks that it's somehow normal. That's why she hooked up with Perv-BIL who, in return, sensed that GSIL would be the kind of wife that looked the other way and didn't see things that were happening in front of her.
It's all so ugly and disgusting.

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