I Hate My Inlaws!

Mercedes SIL, We're No Longer Pretending

Posted on Sat, Jan. 29, 2011 at 08:30 am

Your kids birthday has come & gone. Did you notice that we didn't call this time? At this point, a b-day card is more than plenty. Your kids have been trained by you not to acknowledge me as one of their aunts. Whenever they see me, they don't call me "Aunt ------." Instead, the just call me by my first name. I find it to be disrespectful. You wanted to hurt my feelings and it worked. And you used your kids to do it. What a low blow.

Especially since "I" am the only reason those kids have b-day cards & nice presents for their birthdays & x-mas. I even go out of my way to find cards & wrapping paper in characters I know they're into right now. I give very thoughtful gifts for one reason only: to make them happy! Despite what you might think, it's also "ME" who used to push for visits to see your kids. For some reason, you assumed that I avoided visits w/you guys. It is MY HUSBAND (your DH's brother) who doesn't like family visits!!! He had more in common w/his mother & her side of the family. He only talks to his Dad & step mom once a month. And sometimes, that's b/c I remind him repeatedly to call them.

I've seen your kids many times over the last few years. How is it that my niece & nephews know to call my husband "Uncle ----" but they don't know to call me "Aunt ------?" I think the answer is obvious. This is one of the many ways you've gone out of your way to try and exclude me from this family.

You can't treat me like I don't exist and expect my husband to just go along with it & pretend you're not doing it. He & I come as a package whether you like it or not. When you treat me shabbily, it affects my husband too. He's not a confrontational guy but your day will come if you keep this up. Just b/c you do it sneakily so no one can see, WE see it. Until your kids learn from you to treat me respectfully & acknowledge me as their aunt, we won't be going out of our way to call them on their birthdays. What's the point?

If you or my husband's brother ask why we didn't call your kids on their b-day, we haven't decided yet if we're going to tell you the real reason or if we're just going to give you some excuse. Depends on how much drama we want to deal with for the day. All I know is, all of this is really getting OLD.

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