I Hate My Inlaws!

What is the common thread?

Posted on Tue, Apr. 27, 2021 at 09:36 pm

MIL, please choose differently this time and see how happy the family can be.

Seriously, at some point you have to stop and take a self inventory/assessment of your own complicity.

If your lines of emotion and communication are broken in so many places with lots of different people who are not connected to each other it’s time to consider the possibility that the problem is something YOU need to work on within yourself.

I think you’re being controlled and you’re scared and that’s been your constant state for the majority of your life. Mostly by men who are supposed to be protecting you.

They’ve told you so many lies that you no longer see yourself with any kind of value. They yell, hit & call you horrible things. They lie, steal & behave dangerously. We’ve seen the bruises and broken skin.

Some of us have also come under their attacks. That’s why I’m here writing online and not anywhere near “ground zero”. I had to choose my child’s safety. You’ve seen the anger and abuse first hand.

Despite all of that you cling to these monsters, lie for them, buy them the vices they cannot control and watch them attack everything around them (when they don’t get their way).

It’s as if you think their behavior reflects poorly on you. It doesn’t. You’ve done all the right things and cared for these “man babies” with the most sincere and unconditional love.

There comes a time, though, when you have to recognize you’re codependent and enabling them. This never leads somewhere positive and usually results in death. Please heed the warning signs & get out before it’s too late.

Forcing people to deal with their own bullshit and getting yourself to a place with emotional and physical safety is the MOST loving thing you can do. The path you’re on right now leads to certain heartbreak. Waking up and choosing to do what’s right is really the ONLY chance they have.

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